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This episode we discuss twin flames and soulmates. If you did an amateur porn nearly a decade ago and haven't told your finance but are about yo get married. Would you tell them?
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Hello pimps, hoes, prostitutes, lovers, friends, exes, ex-fiancés, and even current ones, in current ones, current folks, and yeah. Everybody on that fucking spectrum, all of my LGBTQAI plus supplemental P's and all of my POC's and my DOG's. Welcome to another episode! I'm sorry. Whew, that was a mouthful. It is Wise Freaks podcast, y'all. It is just dap burnin' K-pop, it's your top priority, K.A. Yeah, the Nick Nugget dreams. Um, well, I can tell you that it almost wasn't a show. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. It really was something. So we were just kind of on like pause for a minute, y'all. Yeah, honestly. But we're here, we in this bitch. And honestly, that is so funny though, to really think like your first thought is like, when shit like that happened, like, oh shit, did we pay the bill? Like, cause I know my, I be like that. Like anytime something starts happening funny, like with myself and I'm like, oh shit, did I pay the bill? I'm like, hold on. I'm like, let me call my mama. Hold on, did I pay the bill? Hold on. Is this shit working? Hello? I'll just- Hello? I'll just call to make sure it's still working. Hello? Thank you. Making sure. You know you just gotta do a double check sometimes. Hehehe Yeah, just need to do that confirmation. So yeah, we got a whole situation for y'all today, thankfully, God willing. Let's keep that fucking electricity up. But, alright, church day, man. I wanted to start this bit out real light. So question of the day. I'm going to tell this quick little story. This is in Sletty Confessions. So it's a quick little story, but there's a bigger question in it. And it's the question of the day. It says, I, 30-year-old female, can't tell fiance about this. I did a casting porn video almost seven years ago. I got destroyed by the guy, and I regretted it instantly. But I often go back and watch the video and masturbate to it. I can't help myself. I recently got engaged, and my fiance doesn't know about the video also. He's nowhere near as big as the guy in the video. I'll never tell anyone I know about this, but I had to let it out somewhere. So. If your fiance or partner whatever, would you wanna know or would you tell your partner? But you think he would wanna know? Is that valued information? Like, does him knowing about this video change his life? Does it change their relationship? Yeah, okay. Yeah, and it can look really silly like okay, my homeboy just show me this video like I swear to god It's no way it's you but can you confirm this you and you soften it up and you like oh my god, it's me Yeah See, but I feel like her saying that instantly means there's something there in that, because why would she bring up how big that guy's dick was compared to her man's? Because why does dick have anything to do with it? The whole point is, that's still you in that video. Yeah, that whole situation. Bitch, that shit is different. Out of control. You know what, we are in a time though now, I feel like where porn stars are starting to come back and kind of make a name for themselves because we were at a low life where nobody knew who the porn stars were. But you knew the ones that was really doing their thing, but now we're starting to get back and the porn star is out here, because when the one girl that was a porn star that was in Euphoria, the porn star is out here making a name for themselves. Yeah. Hehehe Like weird shit? Oh God. I mean how else you gonna find? And you know what like does that make him a visionary though to be able to see like a video such on the odd separate end of the spectrum like great actress You know what I mean? I could definitely see her in this. I don't know great eye a great eye Yeah, that's kind of crazy. Yeah, that's a- I don't know. To know that that's how you were selected. Like it was this video that. Yeah. So how did you find me? Oh my gosh. But yeah, so yeah, you think she really has to tell him now. But you think he would feel flattered that she just is telling him now that they're already engaged. So it's like, yo, you had X, Y, and Z time to tell me, now you just now telling me we're engaged. Like, is that a whole different fight? Is that worth that argument? You know what I'm saying? Like, is that argument worth that argument? Because that could be a situation in itself. Because when do you even open the door to tell somebody that? Yeah. Right. I might See, I'm such a like, I'm gonna tell you a little bit of information here and there, just to see if you still fuck with me. I'm like, oh, I told that nigga that shit yesterday. He still fucking with me? Yeah, he still fucking with me. Like damn, I'm crazy, but he still like it. Oh wait, what was that one song? It was like I'm toxic she toxic. Yeah We talk Yeah. Yeah, and make it a whole situation. Yeah. You know. Yeah, that's what the people want to see. Yeah, I definitely I'm with you I would just tell them and just let it you know, let it be put it all out there Even if the homeboys have any just put it out there. He might be like, you know, yeah already knew What if he's like I already I've been seen that video Sabrina sprinkles. Yeah, that was you You know how they named me? Sabrina Sprinkles. That's gotta fire. Yeah, I think that's best case scenarios like either. Oh, yeah, I know article with it or it's like, oh That's what's up Or, uh, damn, I want to see some more of that. That's probably maybe better case scenario. You're like, Ooh, well, because she did mention that his wasn't as big, but Yeah, and it's like, oh, hold on you like you was clowning in that video like what's up with that? He was on game in the video. So Where's that's that? That's actually that's best case scenario. I think that is best case scenario Yeah, the best thing scenario is I tell you about the video you like I want to see and you're like damn He was tearing that shit up by you and fuck me like that and it's like, oh, well say less, you know that's Yeah. Hehehehe I feel like he was on to you. Like this nigga got a, he been acting weird, but this nigga got a idea about that video. Pft, pft, pft. That was the first question somebody asked. Somebody was like, well, does anybody know you did it? Like how many things you gotta go through to find them? Like if I Google amateur big titty girl tries big dick for first time and you are you the first video or you are you page 175? Let me know. Definitely. See, but I'm a page 92. I'm a page 165 nigga though. So if you gotta know your nigga though, cause. You gotta know your audience. Nope, nope, nope. And I'll continue until I find something. Cause I don't play that. Yeah, I'll be like, all right, never mind. I was like, well, nothing really sparked. So I guess I'm cool. Never. Nevermind. Yeah, honestly, I have had them nights where it's like, nevermind, this shit is wack as. This is so fucking dumb. Okay wait, should we get into the baby daddies? Oh. Yes, okay. I'm excited to hear this. I have a baby father this week. Mine is the late great Tupac. I was going through this weekend watching a whole bunch of Tupac videos and just listening to him speak and do interviews and I was thoroughly. Entry. I went back into a trance when I was watching the video. I just, I went there. And yeah, it was just like, the nigga was crazy for real though. Like the way he be, like he would just be, he just gives, he was so fucking passionate. And I just like, it was so dope. And how he just literally, he didn't give a fuck. He would address anybody in his song. Anybody could get it. Like even if you thought about saying something bad about him, he was gonna cut you up in the song. And it's just, yeah. The Nick is down. GIRL and they saying that he never even blew on the pussy that he never even hit she just wanted to fuck. Yeah, I heard that they, they might not even fuck. They was just, she just wanted it. Yeah, because they never like dated. So that's, she just knew, it was just probably the wind, the breeze of that nigga. I ain't gonna hold you, probably. And okay? Yeah Allegedly. I'm sorry. But yeah, so that's definitely Tupac, always, because yeah, the nigga's fine, the nigga was fine. That took a good dick out of this. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Either or. Oh, she's so cute. Okay, she's cute. Yeah, I do like her. Now, I was so confused. She's not really a scientist. Oh, okay. I'm, alright, I like that. That's what's up. So she was always a science girl. She was the science girl. And okay, so she raps. No, she sings. Okay. Mm-hmm. And was she dating somebody? Okay, that's what I thought. Interesting... interesting couple. Yeah. Um, are they still together? Okay. Was she in some kind of, I felt like she was in like a beef. I saw her name in something like not too long ago about something. I don't know why. And I feel like she's one of the girls that minds her own business. Yeah, I don't think she's like super messy, but she is cute. She doing her thing. I remember that was I was always when I'm like this bitch really assigned to but I guess maybe she assigned to the music. Mm-hmm. No. Quite ambiguous character. Yeah, definitely me too. Okay, she's definitely... Like he got him, yeah, he got him a smart ass lady. Turns out she's a science of the musical arts and that's what's up. Okay, Mariah the scientist and Tupac. Wow. Okay, we take those two musical artists. Oh, that was this other question that came about. It was talking about how do you tell people that there will be no second date? See, that's what I thought too. But some people seem to think that, I guess that's like super rude, and that you should like really tell them like, you know, feedback like, hey, it was nice meeting you. I'm not interested. Good luck. Or, you know what I mean? I feel like that's kind of rude too. Hey. It's yeah, or feel like you could probably know that maybe like on the first link after you kind of like, you know, I guess and that's what some people were saying is that you couldn't like in the Congress the end of day with like, well, it was nice to me you take care. So I'm like, okay. Uh oh, dude. What was happening? Oh, okay. Why would it? Maybe it'll just upload it later. Mine says 99. It's zero percent, not even like five or six. I think it was like five or six, like we might be all right, but not even five or six. Oh, do you think that you weren't recording at any point?
[purr]:UGH Okay.
[bernie]:Okay, now it's recording.
[purr]:Oh dear.
[bernie]:We're just gonna give them the meats today. This is just a short little, it'll be a cute little 30, 45 minute episode. And that's okay!
[purr]:And... Um... Hold on...
[bernie]:So, sounds like we're back to square, we're back to square two. Pfft.
[purr]:Okay, so I'm recording, hold on.
[bernie]:Yeah, now
[purr]:I'm
[bernie]:you're
[purr]:not
[bernie]:recording.
[purr]:using.
[bernie]:I just realized that red dot was never there.
[purr]:Okay, but it's still good.
[bernie]:Perth Browse doesn't allow recording. Then it says, what should I do? Join the studio from a different browser that's supported. That's all I said to do. I mean, I'm on Google Chrome. and you use Google Chrome. That's why I'm so confused. Why are they acting dumb? maybe close the browser out and relaunch it? Like, I'm so perturbed. It's not even working.
[purr]:not my browser network. First these niggas shut my fucking power off. Like
[bernie]:Damn.
[purr]:what did I do? Like what did I do?
[bernie]:And everything was fine earlier.
[purr]:Like, what did I do? I don't understand.
[bernie]:That's crazy
[purr]:I don't understand what I did. What did I do to deserve this?
[bernie]:That's really crazy.
[purr]:Like, what did I do? This is crazy. It's time to get rid of this computer.
[bernie]:I know, I was just saying that about mine. I'm like, ugh, I just don't know. but I might have to
[purr]:Cause
[bernie]:very soon.
[purr]:you hear this bitch huffing and puffing?
[bernie]:Oh my, I hear her purring.
[purr]:She is purring. which
[bernie]:Oh shit,
[purr]:is hot.
[bernie]:mine. Hell, mine is too, but mine ain't that loud. So
[purr]:This bit is
[bernie]:I
[purr]:working.
[bernie]:might got
[purr]:This.
[bernie]:a little I might got a little longer.
[purr]:This bitch is halfy and HAH-FEEEN
[bernie]:As soon as you said this, this motherfucker started heatin' out like, bitch, ain't nobody called your name, ain't nobody called
[purr]:I
[bernie]:you
[purr]:like
[bernie]:to the
[purr]:that
[bernie]:podium,
[purr]:you said
[bernie]:oh.
[purr]:that a lot.
[bernie]:You shut your ass up, because I was just keep singing the praise on you, bitch. I just got done singing the praise on you.
[purr]:Oh!
[bernie]:So I don't even know why you acting like this in front
[purr]:Mm-hmm
[bernie]:of these good people, in front of these good people.
[purr]:with these good people, I don't even know why you did all that I'm
[bernie]:This shit was not necessary.
[purr]:dead
[bernie]:Hold on now. She is starting to heat up. I'm about to turn this fan on. Oh.
[purr]:I'm sorry.
[bernie]:I'm starting
[purr]:Why
[bernie]:to
[purr]:is
[bernie]:get
[purr]:our shit
[bernie]:nervous.
[purr]:coming apart?
[bernie]:I think she getting nervous.
[purr]:Oh my god.
[bernie]:forgot my laptop got feelings and shit this bitch start to get nervous.
[purr]:So, uh, see you out in bed.
[bernie]:You're just shaking and breathing hard bitch.
[purr]:My shit happened in perfect. Oh my god.
[bernie]:I can't hear her, she is purring too.
[purr]:I can't even get like okay
[bernie]:Why is it doing that? That's so weird.
[purr]:Just say you hate me.
[bernie]:Like that's such a weird thing to do. Stop being weird, bitch. Everything
[purr]:Like
[bernie]:was just
[purr]:just
[bernie]:fine.
[purr]:say you hate me.
[bernie]:What changed?
[purr]:Like, I'm connected to the internet. Do I need to use Safari? What is going on?
[bernie]:No, because this browser doesn't work with Safari.
[purr]:this bitch over here huffing and fucking puffing. This don't make no goddamn sense.
[bernie]:That's crazy.
[purr]:Um, okay
[bernie]:Uh.
[purr]:guys, I'm back. Um... Just making do!
[bernie]:Actually, I don't think there's any like back to go to so full transparency Oh, we've recorded the entire first ever this book fucking podcast meaning we had our entire intro Man fucking hell and Then we cut
[purr]:Everything.
[bernie]:off just before we had the baby daddy see we were just about to get into the meets and in fact We are not going to redo that again. So what we're going to do is let
[purr]:Yep.
[bernie]:you know that Our baby mother and baby father for this week was, it was Mariah the scientist. She's actually in fact not a scientist, but she is a musical scientist. That's what we discovered. And then the baby
[purr]:this.
[bernie]:daddy, who was the nigga I picked up? Tuhau.
[purr]:Too fast.
[bernie]:God, it's too fast, yes. Uh... Mm-mm-mm. Ooh!
[purr]:First they shut my lights off and now this.
[bernie]:Oh yeah, that was the other part of this that was missed also earlier was that, oh yeah, your electricity was turned off when we were just about to begin. So we also were dealing with an
[purr]:I've been going
[bernie]:electrical
[purr]:through hell
[bernie]:issue.
[purr]:just to put this little episode out.
[bernie]:like
[purr]:So I'm gonna need y'all to make that shit shake and do some numbers on that bitch because it really shouldn't have been this hard.
[bernie]:It really shouldn't have. The stars are just not aligned today and you know what? It's fine. So with that being said, it is Wise Freaks podcast.
[purr]:It's
[bernie]:It's
[purr]:a full moon,
[bernie]:burned. Oh God, oh, it's
[purr]:right?
[bernie]:a full moon.
[purr]:Isn't it supposed to be a full moon tonight?
[bernie]:I think you're right. You might be actually right.
[purr]:Yeah, some shit is happening.
[bernie]:So if you're you know, astrological and you get into that Yeah, there's some shit going down. But okay, so.
[purr]:Mm-mm-mm.
[bernie]:Back to the topic at hand, there was a large question of the day that we, damn, we might have to just cover that on another episode, child, because we really did miss all of that. Damn.
[purr]:We missed all that.
[bernie]:Mm-mm-mm.
[purr]:I hate this, bro. This is crazy.
[bernie]:You know what,
[purr]:Okay
[bernie]:let's
[purr]:guys,
[bernie]:do the ques- Should we do the question
[purr]:so
[bernie]:of the
[purr]:for
[bernie]:day
[purr]:the
[bernie]:at
[purr]:meat.
[bernie]:the very least?
[purr]:Oh yeah, let's do the questions today at the very
[bernie]:The
[purr]:least.
[bernie]:question of the day was a good one. So really the question of the day is followed with a story. So here's the story. 30 year old woman can't tell my fiance about this. I did a casting porn video almost seven years ago. I got destroyed by the guy and I regretted it instantly. But I often go back and watch the video and masturbate to it, I can't help myself. I recently got engaged and my fiance doesn't know about this video also. He's nowhere near as big as the guy in the video. I'll never tell anyone I know about this, but I gotta let it out somewhere. Now, question is, should she tell her fiancé at this stage in the game? Like, would you tap?
[purr]:I said it's very circumstantial. because my point on it would be that I would want to tell him before his homeboys. If his homeboys knew about it, I would want to be the first to tell him before the homeboys did. So that's what I was saying I would tell him. But
[bernie]:Absolutely.
[purr]:if she's on like page 57 or something like that. It's not even like the first couple of searches that come up. I don't think it's that big of a deal.
[bernie]:See, but that has to really depend. This is my counter on that. It's like, that would really have to be 10 on the type of nigga that you set up with. You have to know like, yo, is your nigga a page 82 nigga? Cause me personally, I'm a page 102, a page 157. Because you know what? If I don't find what I'm looking for, I'm going to keep looking. And if that means page 157, nigga, we're there.
[purr]:That's facts though
[bernie]:Hahaha
[purr]:Actual fact
[bernie]:So I might run
[purr]:Life
[bernie]:across
[purr]:goes on.
[bernie]:your video.
[purr]:Relatable. So, yeah.
[bernie]:It does.
[purr]:Ah.
[bernie]:But also I do understand like it's one of those things where it's like, okay, if you tell him about this video, how does that change your relationship? Does that change your life? Does anything change? Does what does this video change? Like, is it really that serious? Is it that serious? Is it?
[purr]:I think it is kind of serious because she still is like reminiscing on like she's still missing something. She still goes back and watches herself being fucking annihilated by this man.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:Yeah. And... Yeah, so...
[bernie]:And it's really like it could go bad and like she could again, she did make nod to his dick being bigger than I mean, the dick in the video being much larger than her fiance's. And I just find that odd that she that she offered up that information. So clearly, maybe she's feeling some type of way about that. And that's why she's back, you know, visiting the feed.
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:so seems like she's kind of reminiscing on that and Maybe kind of having some second thoughts like damn about to marry this small dick and it's about to be the dick I'm about to be with for the rest of my life
[bernie]:Right.
[purr]:You know
[bernie]:And then, and then it could really go bad. Like she could be like, okay, you know, hey, I did this video. He like, let me see it. And she, you know, sop it the fuck up. And he like, what? You've never fucked me like this. Like,
[purr]:You never
[bernie]:what's
[purr]:did that for
[bernie]:up?
[purr]:me.
[bernie]:You know, and then that could be a whole different situation that they got to deal with then.
[purr]:Or, I mean guys are insecure and they're just gonna
[bernie]:Right.
[purr]:see her getting pummeled by this huge
[bernie]:Yes.
[purr]:ass dick that he's not packing. He's gonna feel some type of way.
[bernie]:Yeah, that's possible. That's if it's possible or it could go this way of like damn He was really fucking anything like that. You fuck me like that and it's like oh say less boom You know hit a split on it, you know
[purr]:He
[bernie]:do what
[purr]:cool...
[bernie]:you gotta do
[purr]:He cool with...
[bernie]:You know or he like oh shit, I want to see you get fucked like that in person you're like what Been waiting for this. I've been waiting for this
[purr]:he's into it
[bernie]:Right.
[purr]:and he's kind of a...
[bernie]:Right, it could be a lot of different things. Y'all could be open to exploring even more shit than if you shared the information.
[purr]:Eh.
[bernie]:Especially because she's going back and reminiscing on it. So again, it tells you that she still hasn't moved past that. She got a little spice
[purr]:She
[bernie]:in her she's trying to get to.
[purr]:got a little itch and scratch for some BBC.
[bernie]:Hehehe
[purr]:She's itching for it. She's serving
[bernie]:Uhhhhhhhhhhhhh
[purr]:second thoughts. Like, I don't know if I'm gonna do this
[bernie]:I don't know if I want to
[purr]:for
[bernie]:do
[purr]:the rest
[bernie]:this. So
[purr]:of
[bernie]:let
[purr]:my
[bernie]:me,
[purr]:life.
[bernie]:yeah. So let me tap back in on this video.
[purr]:Ugh.
[bernie]:Yeah. Yeah, I feel like she might really have to tell this man. I mean, you may as well. Like what's the worst that could happen? That's why, like, again, just why what's what we were also saying earlier was like piecemealing information. You know, that's why I'd be like, all right, let me tell this thing to this. I'm like, okay, so fucking with me tomorrow. I don't tell this thing to this wild crazy. Like, okay, so fucking with me tomorrow. Like, okay, cool.
[purr]:I'll wait until
[bernie]:You know...
[purr]:niggas locked in and then I can release some shit.
[bernie]:Right.
[purr]:Night.
[bernie]:You're like, okay, this nigga love me. I'm good. So I could probably tell him the worst shit he's still gonna write out for it.
[purr]:Yeah. Yeah, but I'm not just gonna... Not in the beginning.
[bernie]:See,
[purr]:Mm-mm.
[bernie]:I
[purr]:Not
[bernie]:tell
[purr]:me.
[bernie]:her, I just sprinkle it out like seasoning, just a little bit
[purr]:critical.
[bernie]:at a time, honey. And then you're like, this nigga kinda toxic. I'm like, ooh, toxic too. Now
[purr]:We
[bernie]:we
[purr]:tax
[bernie]:toxic.
[purr]:it together. be toxic. I love it. I gotta have a little toxic.
[bernie]:I feel like otherwise what then happens? Cause this might be a little boring. You gotta have a little spice. And it's like, there's a
[purr]:A gift
[bernie]:certain
[purr]:for
[bernie]:kind of toxicity.
[purr]:it. Yeah,
[bernie]:There's a
[purr]:like,
[bernie]:certain kind of, yeah.
[purr]:there's a healthy amount.
[bernie]:Maybe we should do an episode on that of like trying to figure out what
[purr]:healthy
[bernie]:is
[purr]:toxicity.
[bernie]:the healthy amount of? Yeah, there is a I feel like there is a healthy amount of toxicity like you know what I mean Just
[purr]:Yeah.
[bernie]:like we talked about delusion like you have to have like a little bit of delusion You can't just be living in reality all fucking all the time like you gotta be a little
[purr]:Real
[bernie]:delusional
[purr]:delirio.
[bernie]:real delusional Yep, and I'm my man I'm sorry.
[purr]:My man, thank you to my man. I did not know that was Lada.
[bernie]:Me either, I just found that out the other day, deadass. Like, I was like, what the fuck?
[purr]:Bang.
[bernie]:That's Lado? I was like, she sat there on stage? I was like...
[purr]:She said that on a war show.
[bernie]:Oh,
[purr]:Like,
[bernie]:was it
[purr]:girl,
[bernie]:a word show?
[purr]:what?
[bernie]:Okay, yeah. I was like, she's literally on stage. I'm like, okay. This is hilarious.
[purr]:I think it was the BET Awards. I had no idea. My man. Thank you to my man.
[bernie]:Thank you to my man.
[purr]:Why would you say that? Oh,
[bernie]:But
[purr]:that
[bernie]:um,
[purr]:bitch
[bernie]:yeah.
[purr]:is fine.
[bernie]:I do feel like she might gotta tell this nigga though. She
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:might gotta tell
[purr]:I
[bernie]:this
[purr]:think
[bernie]:nigga.
[purr]:that's where I would be at. Like, he's already locked in. He love me. He about to marry me. It was a while ago.
[bernie]:Like,
[purr]:I know
[bernie]:okay.
[purr]:he gonna wanna video though. So, I don't know.
[bernie]:Me personally, I would wanna see it. Like, let me see it. Look at this.
[purr]:Yeah.
[bernie]:You know? Let me see that motherfucker.
[purr]:Oh god.
[bernie]:I wanna see what's going on. Pfft.
[purr]:What's going on? I don't know. Because if it was if the shoe was on the other foot. And my nigga was fucking some big booty bitch with a baby. And she got a whole bunch of ass and her shit clapping from the back and my shit don't clap like that. Like hers from the back. I would feel some type of way.
[bernie]:I'm out.
[purr]:Do my shit be shaking like that? No?
[bernie]:Dude, my shit. My shit don't clap like that in the back.
[purr]:Oh, oh really? Okay. Do I be softening it up like? It's just gonna be, I know it's gonna be like, it's just all gonna be downhill from there. Like I know it's gonna be pay city.
[bernie]:Be like later on, like when you see it go down, you're like. something
[purr]:So
[bernie]:better.
[purr]:when she was tapping, what was you think, Errol?
[bernie]:Hehehe
[purr]:So who's like better dead? Me or her?
[bernie]:Me or her?
[purr]:like uh i can't now
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:don't call me you said i want to see it
[bernie]:I wanna see it! I want to see it.
[purr]:Oh my god, I forgot to put this other thing in the notes. But we done lost half the fucking episode anyway.
[bernie]:Ciao
[purr]:Ha!
[bernie]:Yeah
[purr]:It was funny. I was... I should probably shout out the podcast. Um, but then I saw it on... They were talking about, um, any like really strict rules that your parents had for you growing up that like made no fucking sense or was just like so outrageous and ridiculous. And people were saying like, oh they couldn't watch like Harry Potter or like Twilight or like anything Mermaids and stuff like that because that was like witchcraft and stuff like that.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:But there's one Reddit. that they read. They said, um, they said that his mom wouldn't let him watch Kim Possible because we take away the K. It says impossible and nothing is impossible without, without
[bernie]:Shit!
[purr]:And the girl started crying.
[bernie]:It's no way her mom was serious.
[purr]:Oh my god.
[bernie]:That is the
[purr]:Yo.
[bernie]:most un-serious shit ever. Shit!
[purr]:I'm gonna find the link and put them on there because that shit literally had me crying. They had to cut her mic off because she was dying laughing. But honestly, same because... Impossible.
[bernie]:take away the...
[purr]:Nothing is impossible with God.
[bernie]:Oh, Lord.
[purr]:I was trying to think of any, if my parents had any ridiculous ass things that I couldn't do I couldn't think of anything other than um Oh people were saying they couldn't watch SpongeBob because they said SpongeBob was gay and then somebody said because SpongeBob was autistic and he was going to make you autistic.
[bernie]:What? Is that a content, like was SpongeBob really autistic? I'm just finding this out. He wasn't autistic.
[purr]:I feel like SpongeBob does kind of display some symptoms of autism. But I don't think that's going to give you the autism. Like what? They're
[bernie]:I don't
[purr]:making
[bernie]:think
[purr]:it sound
[bernie]:it
[purr]:like
[bernie]:just...
[purr]:it's going to give you the gay!
[bernie]:Yeah,
[purr]:And give
[bernie]:it's
[purr]:you
[bernie]:good.
[purr]:the like... Like, what the fuck?
[bernie]:I hung up on the phone so my parents call me a spongebob. I'm just sick. That is so mean.
[purr]:I just think he has ADHD.
[bernie]:I think he has extreme ADHD and he may have, yeah, I mean.
[purr]:I mean,
[bernie]:What you
[purr]:think
[bernie]:think?
[purr]:back about it.
[bernie]:I know I'm thinking that. Damn dog, that nigga used to be laughing. Like, nigga shut up. He didn't mean to laugh.
[purr]:He would kinda be tweaking it. I don't
[bernie]:Hahahaha
[purr]:know.
[bernie]:I can't think of no
[purr]:Spongebob
[bernie]:other sh- no
[purr]:was
[bernie]:I can't
[purr]:his
[bernie]:think-
[purr]:own...
[bernie]:it was.
[purr]:I can't say it was autism like Spongebob was his own... I don't know his own self his own diagnosis that was...
[bernie]:He was SpongeBob.
[purr]:he was Spongebob
[bernie]:He
[purr]:and
[bernie]:was
[purr]:that's
[bernie]:Spongebob.
[purr]:it
[bernie]:And you know what? There is a couple of Spongebob-esque niggas out here.
[purr]:that are specifically the niggas who are getting their knees done. because so I was trying to tell I was trying to tell my cousin about the guys getting his knees done and I was like I mean he grew like seven inches but he still has a five foot five torso he still wears five foot five shoes
[bernie]:Yeah,
[purr]:still
[bernie]:that's
[purr]:have
[bernie]:true.
[purr]:five foot five arms and
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:now you got these long ass legs. And then I was like, so you remember that episode of SpongeBob when he took Pearl to prom and he showed up in them long ass legs?
[bernie]:Yes!
[purr]:That's what it was giving. And his legs started malfunctioning and they thought he was
[bernie]:Yes!
[purr]:doing like the new latest dance move.
[bernie]:The new dance!
[purr]:That's them niggas. That's them. Shout out to SpongeBob.
[bernie]:I was ahead of his time.
[purr]:He was ahead of his time by years.
[bernie]:Man,
[purr]:Shout out
[bernie]:what
[purr]:to SpongeBob.
[bernie]:the fuck, that really is, I did see that one. That's how that nigga look. Why would they, why are they doing that?
[purr]:Cause you
[bernie]:That's
[purr]:put
[bernie]:so.
[purr]:seven inches into your legs, but what about the rest? What about
[bernie]:The
[purr]:your
[bernie]:rest
[purr]:torso?
[bernie]:of your shit is still the same height. Yeah, it's not proportion right.
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:And that's
[purr]:it's
[bernie]:just
[purr]:giving
[bernie]:like the niggas
[purr]:spanish
[bernie]:at the gym that only hit arms and don't do legs. It's not proportion right, babe.
[purr]:I don't like that.
[bernie]:I don't like that. Even that shit out. Because how them
[purr]:I don't
[bernie]:little
[purr]:like
[bernie]:ass
[purr]:that.
[bernie]:legs going to hold up that big ass torso? It just doesn't work like that. The shit looks uneven,
[purr]:I
[bernie]:you
[purr]:don't
[bernie]:look
[purr]:know.
[bernie]:like you're about to fall over.
[purr]:That hits me the egg.
[bernie]:For real. Oh Oh shit,
[purr]:SpongeBob
[bernie]:where were we?
[purr]:it.
[bernie]:SpongeBob ass niggas. uh the meats
[purr]:Yes, about those memes. Um... I can't really pull up my notes, so...
[bernie]:Okay, well, here it is, y'all. We have really been experiencing all the difficulties, you guys, and thank you for even bearing with us. So to just give you the gist of it, we're talking about twin flame. And what does it mean? And it's always this conversation of like, oh, that was my twin flame. I don't know if you guys have seen it. It was kind of a trend for a minute where people were talking about like twin flame, this is my twin flame type shit.
[purr]:Thanks for watching!
[bernie]:It was like on TikTok and shit.
[purr]:It seems like a very TikTok-y-esque... um... kind of topic.
[bernie]:Right and it was so basically it's a twin flame is a concept that promotes an intense and powerful soul connection between two individuals No scientific evidence supports a twin flame ideology and some traits can draw comparisons with toxic relationships So this is just kind of this article's take on it, but it says then the twin plant. Yeah, basically it's a soulmate, but there's There are some different say they say that there are some differentiations between someone being a soulmate versus a twin flame and it will get into that. So it says the twin flame is a fairly new concept often mistaken to be synonyms with the term soulmate. See, while both describe profound life-changing relationships, the two concepts are entirely different. While there are plenty anecdotes from people who claim to have found their twin flames, evidence provides the existence of twin flames. So twin flame is a mirror souls. There are terms used to describe a relationship. So the concept is increased, whatever. So it says, these individuals claim to experience a deep soul connection because of a shared similar life path and shared pain, sometimes even trauma, because individuals are fundamentally similar in their twin flame. They function like spiritual mirrors that reflect each other's strengths, weaknesses, past traumas and vulnerabilities.
[purr]:Oh, so a trombobon?
[bernie]:Almost like a trauma bond, because didn't we talk about trauma bonding and shit?
[purr]:I don't like that.
[bernie]:It's a little bit of a trauma bond, but not really. It's just like... Again, this idea that like we come from such different maybe like backgrounds, but like we're such similar and people and how we approach a situation and how we react and people believe that like that's there when they find that in their partner that like that's their twin, like we're twin flames and like because we're so much of alike, even though we may differ in some regard, but share the same experience and the same like,
[purr]:Okay.
[bernie]:like we both was maybe abused as a kid or something like that. Sugar warning. So sorry, you guys. Or something like that, you know what I mean? And like,
[purr]:That's like trauma bonding right
[bernie]:it is like trauma
[purr]:like
[bernie]:bonding in a sense. So here's the signs of a twin flame. These are an intense sense of familiarity and recognition and longing. So this is when a person encounters their twin flame, there is an extreme tense of recognition and familiarity. People may feel an intense bond as though they've known each other for a long time. A sense of connection. There's also an intense connection and a strong sense of belonging and yearning. This connection may be platonic, romantic, or familial. Even professional. A significant connection that pulls the person toward the other. Multiple similarities. So twin flames may hold similar values, use the same moral compass, and have similar interests. They also may mirror each other's past experiences. They may not be exactly the same, but both have experienced neglect, abandonment, violence, et cetera. Differences complement each other. Trades and characteristics that are not similar tend to complement each other. And differences in each other's trauma and circumstance also help them process trauma.
[purr]:Okay, so
[bernie]:Um,
[purr]:just
[bernie]:amplification.
[purr]:a little more.
[bernie]:It's a little more, it's like this really like deep, like soul connection type shit,
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:essentially.
[purr]:like the familiarity part.
[bernie]:Mm hmm.
[purr]:That like when you meet someone you're like, I feel like I've known you for.
[bernie]:For
[purr]:much
[bernie]:years.
[purr]:longer.
[bernie]:Yeah, and
[purr]:Yeah.
[bernie]:they say that this can happen in not just romantic relationships. It can even be, again, like with a friend or like, you know, shit like that, co-work.
[purr]:Uh
[bernie]:Um...
[purr]:huh. I don't see that happening with a co-worker, but you know.
[bernie]:I don't, you know, me
[purr]:It's just
[bernie]:either.
[purr]:their own.
[bernie]:And it says, the inspiration and grow to be better, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help a person reach personal transformation and soul growth. Meeting a twin flame can ignite and untapped potential and passion with a person. And this has twin flames presence of tension. This is the last thing and it says Twin flames can reopen unhealed wounds and revisit avoidance issues that a person would rather not confront so it's like this other thing of like where You can also share traits that you guys both don't like in one another but are negative traits as That you guys each possess and you can exacerbate it and like make you come to confront those issues Because you both deal with
[purr]:Uh huh.
[bernie]:Yeah,
[purr]:Huh.
[bernie]:that's like, that's some real
[purr]:That could be slightly...
[bernie]:I think that is helpful in relationships though to like kind of
[purr]:I was gonna
[bernie]:maybe
[purr]:say
[bernie]:share.
[purr]:I think that would be slightly therapeutic because
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:sometimes you can't realize like what you're doing wrong but if you're literally seeing that display in your partner and it irritates you too then you're kind of like oh damn. Well seeing that this is my twin flame I too am the problem and I need to fix that so.
[bernie]:And I need to fix that it's so helpful though to see that when you're like fuck I hate when they do that you're like fuck I do that too, and it's like oh, okay I see why because I'm not supposed to actually be doing that shit And unless yeah like we both probably hate this So
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:let's both not
[purr]:that's
[bernie]:do
[purr]:interesting
[bernie]:this
[purr]:because people, a lot of people say they really don't realize or see that until they have kids and their kids start doing that bullshit and
[bernie]:Ooooooh.
[purr]:they're like, guess what? You do that same shit.
[bernie]:Yeah, do you think it's possible for your kid to be your twin flame? Like you literally have your
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:twin
[purr]:I
[bernie]:flame.
[purr]:think... Yeah, I think that's honestly probably more common than meeting somebody just randomly in your life.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:It seemed like your kid would literally be either your twin flame or your... Their dad's twin flame or, you know.
[bernie]:And maybe that's what often happens
[purr]:One of
[bernie]:and
[purr]:the...
[bernie]:why people don't get it. Like maybe you don't get along. You're like, oh, just really don't work with ending it or whatever the case may be. And it's like, or you like, you just always butt heads. And it's like, maybe it's because you share the same similarity.
[purr]:Yeah, it's
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:like literally your DNA. So it's like
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:guess what? That same bullshit that you be doing your kids come do it too.
[bernie]:They gone
[purr]:Oh
[bernie]:do
[purr]:my
[bernie]:it
[purr]:god
[bernie]:too. Yeah.
[purr]:Ah! twin flame.
[bernie]:So here it goes
[purr]:I don't know
[bernie]:into
[purr]:if I've
[bernie]:the.
[purr]:read a twin flame.
[bernie]:Really? Like where there's ever been somebody where you're like, you know what we are.
[purr]:A romantic twin flame? No.
[bernie]:Yeah, like a romantic to a flame.
[purr]:No.
[bernie]:Hmm. I guess I would have
[purr]:I can't
[bernie]:to dig
[purr]:say
[bernie]:more
[purr]:that
[bernie]:into
[purr]:I have.
[bernie]:what that means from a romantic per I would have to like I need to dig a lot deeper into the romantic perspective of what
[purr]:Yeah.
[bernie]:that means. Yeah, but it says here like twin flames versus soulmates. So the concept of a soulmate is one where a person deeply connects with a different person. Meanwhile, a twin flame is a personal soul incarnated or split into another physical body. Because of this, a person can only have one twin flame while they can have multiple soulmates. Both relationships can be familial, platonic, romantic and deep. Meaningful connections characterize both. Soulmates are naturally compatible and complement each other well. Meanwhile, twin flames are strongly attracted to each other but have too many similarities, which makes them not that compatible. While soulmates feel more supportive and more comfortable, twin flames can be more intense and challenging. They expose people's fears and traumas to help them grow, heal from their past wounds, and awaken their higher calling. Oh. Ooh. Oh.
[purr]:Yeah, definitely not. Uh, yeah, I don't think I would want that in a partner. That seems like something more of like a friend.
[bernie]:Okay. I could see that because, yeah, it could become toxic, even more so toxic within a relationship because of you adding the sexual component, whereas if it were just a friend, you eliminate
[purr]:Yeah, you
[bernie]:that.
[purr]:add in like the relationship component and then I
[bernie]:Shit,
[purr]:just feel like that's gonna
[bernie]:this sex probably helped
[purr]:She
[bernie]:break
[purr]:gonna
[bernie]:the
[purr]:hit
[bernie]:tension.
[purr]:the
[bernie]:You
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:know, probably.
[purr]:right.
[bernie]:You can only fuck so
[purr]:Sex
[bernie]:much to
[purr]:is probably
[bernie]:break
[purr]:the
[bernie]:the
[purr]:best
[bernie]:tension.
[purr]:thing that you could do.
[bernie]:Yeah, that's literally the best thing you can do.
[purr]:Oh my god, yeah no, I wouldn't... Uh, thank god I haven't met my twin flame. And... I hope I don't. I don't think that's something I want. Romantically.
[bernie]:Well,
[purr]:not that
[bernie]:this,
[purr]:you,
[bernie]:yeah.
[purr]:it's like that.
[bernie]:Well, this is like, there's a people on TikTok like looking for their twin flame and posting about that they have their twin flame and giving all of
[purr]:Whaaaaat?
[bernie]:these reasons and scenarios about their twin flames. You know, the
[purr]:Okay.
[bernie]:twin flame concept is quite new for me. I knew like the whole soulmate concept, which is what I kind of thought the twin flame was, but it's more, I get it. I get the difference between the two. where it is like more so the soul mate is somebody you guys just lock in, like we're compatible. We get each other, we understand. Where the twin flame is like, yeah, we get each other. We don't quite understand. We got a lot of differences, but it's because we are very similar, but we do, you know what I mean? It's like we are similar, but we are different, but we do lock in, but we don't. And then, you know,
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:that's just sound toxic.
[purr]:like someone who kind of challenges you
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:and that don't... I don't know. But Soulmate, that kind of makes sense because like that's supposed to be your mate which kind of seems like it should be compatibility whereas Twin Flame seems like that's your twin, that's twinning it
[bernie]:That's
[purr]:like...
[bernie]:twinning them. That's it.
[purr]:That's one
[bernie]:But.
[purr]:of them. So that's literally your. you know your other you like they act just like you.
[bernie]:Mm-hmm
[purr]:I don't want that in a partner. You can't act just like me. Why would I want that?
[bernie]:Well, do you think it's possible to have more than one soulmate?
[purr]:Yeah.
[bernie]:Okay. I do too. I think it's possible to have more than one cell in me. I don't think you can have just one.
[purr]:Yeah, I think it's possible that more than one.
[bernie]:Yeah, I mean, I feel like you can align with many different souls that work for you. You
[purr]:100%.
[bernie]:know. Yeah. Because I think sometimes people think like, it's just one, it's like you can have multiple and that would just, for that phase in your life, like life is really about like the phases. So you can have soulmates in particular phases of your life and still continue to face through.
[purr]:Yeah, exactly. Soulmate also seems like someone that can kind of grow with you, whereas... Uh... It kind of seems like Twinflame maybe... doesn't or like twin flame is kind of like a moment in your life or moment in time.
[bernie]:Yeah, it's more like it can be kind of like a moment.
[purr]:Yeah, it just... I don't know, that was kind of my perception.
[bernie]:Yeah, it's like one of those
[purr]:I don't wanna...
[bernie]:where, where it's like, this is just like, to get me through this period or whatever the situation is for both of us to really just grow into who, you know, like catapult them both into like a big growth, but still not being right for each other. But you guys.
[purr]:Right.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:But Soulmate seems like that's someone that is with you for more than a season.
[bernie]:Definitely
[purr]:Even if
[bernie]:more
[purr]:y'all
[bernie]:than.
[purr]:are not in a relationship, y'all might still be cool or you know you can still count on that person.
[bernie]:Yeah, where it's like the nigga that you fucked like 10 years ago, but you like, he's still around like, yeah, I fucked a nigga, but like, we just really cool.
[purr]:Yeah. He cool. I'm not gonna tell him if I-
[bernie]:He cool, like, I know if I call a nigga today, he'd be like, what you need?
[purr]:Right, I'm here.
[bernie]:And it's nothing.
[purr]:Yeah,
[bernie]:You know?
[purr]:like that.
[bernie]:Very, very,
[purr]:We appreciate
[bernie]:very bad.
[purr]:it. Very much that.
[bernie]:Very fucking... Um, but yeah, so that's the that's the uh twin flames and soul mates
[purr]:That's the meats y'all! See we gave you something.
[bernie]:A
[purr]:Sheeeet.
[bernie]:little something honey.
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[bernie]:Okay, so this one's coming in kind of hot as the reddit. We just have a few here. The first one is, am I wrong for considering meeting the woman my husband had an emotional affair with? Just as the title suggests, I'm considering it. There was nothing physical between them, according to him, but every text was heavily saturated with talk of intimacy. I guess I just need some advice. And please don't suggest leaving him. Because That is not an option. No, I added that's not an option, but. But she did say please. But she just say,
[purr]:You
[bernie]:please
[purr]:are so
[bernie]:don't
[purr]:annoying.
[bernie]:leave him. She said, he know where home is and so do I.
[purr]:And he ain't going nowhere.
[bernie]:He ain't going no motherfuck-
[purr]:Wait, she wants to meet the bitch that he cheated with.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:Okay.
[bernie]:She wants to
[purr]:And then
[bernie]:meet
[purr]:do
[bernie]:her.
[purr]:what?
[bernie]:I'm like, that's what I'm trying to figure
[purr]:She wants
[bernie]:out.
[purr]:to do the first, then do the rest. Like I'm confused.
[bernie]:That's where I, she said she just wants to just know why. I'm like, do you want to see what the bitch looked like? I mean, you probably already saw her titties cause you said that it was a lot of sexual texts. Like, come on, miss me. I mean, I don't know what she's trying
[purr]:It's
[bernie]:to do
[purr]:giving.
[bernie]:here.
[purr]:It's giving. Come outside. We're not gonna jump you.
[bernie]:Like she's gonna literally meet up with that bitch and just she's gonna start asking questions and she's gonna start getting answers that she doesn't want.
[purr]:Yeah, so why do that?
[bernie]:I don't
[purr]:Are these
[bernie]:know.
[purr]:bitches okay?
[bernie]:I don't.
[purr]:I wish I would give a bitch the time of day. I really do.
[bernie]:Yeah... I... Yeah, that doesn't sound like a good
[purr]:And
[bernie]:idea.
[purr]:then what's
[bernie]:It just
[purr]:the
[bernie]:sounds
[purr]:point of that
[bernie]:A,
[purr]:if
[bernie]:dangerous.
[purr]:you know you're not gonna leave?
[bernie]:And also, what do you get from that? What do you get to understand?
[purr]:especially if you're not going to leave. Because then it's not even closure. You're still going back to- Like I could see if you just wanted to be done and just like, you know what? I just want to know what the bitch look like. I'm done. Like I'm not going to that.
[bernie]:Yeah.
[purr]:Or I just want to talk to the bitch and see what's up. Okay. If you really needed to do that, then go ahead. But if you're not even gonna leave.
[bernie]:She not even gonna leave. So,
[purr]:Then what's the point?
[bernie]:there is no point. She doesn't even, she has no idea what she's doing. Okay, she, yeah, no.
[purr]:Kiss me out.
[bernie]:Let me see. Okay, this one is, says my, okay, these is like low key kids. We're not reading that one. They're 19. Talking about having
[purr]:I'm
[bernie]:a threesome
[purr]:here or not.
[bernie]:and his girlfriend is mad at him because she wanted to have a
[purr]:Ah!
[bernie]:threesome with him and his best friend. Ciao.
[purr]:Uh, Amy can't sleep at bedtime. Anyway...
[bernie]:Oh, this is messy. Oh, oh god. It says Am I wrong for asking my girlfriend to move out? 26 year old girlfriend 24 moved in with me at the end of last year after only a couple months of dating. In the beginning, we agree this was only temporary and that we should and that she should leave within the specific timeframe. Well, soon became apparent that she had no plans to ever leave never talked to me about it. So I brought it up and how I thought that it would be best like for us to separate. before we choose to live together forever. Since this is such a big step that I was not ready for yet, since I work from home, I also take care of everything around the house, cooking, cleaning, utility bills. This is double work for me that I was not ready for. She is now upset saying how she doesn't understand why I would feel. Ehh And on that note, ladies and gentlemen. We've experienced an extreme amount of technical difficulty. So.
[purr]:Thank you.
[bernie]:We have to sincerely apologize and come back at you with another week, y'all. It's been another episode of Wise Freaks Podcast. You know where to find us, Wise Freaks Podcast on everything, TikTok, Instagram, and Twitter. New episode every Tuesday. Did I miss anything?
[purr]:Mm-mm. Oh.
[bernie]:Alright y'all, it must have been another Hood Ghetto episode of Wise Freaks. BYE!
[purr]:Mm. Uh. Mm, mm, mm.