Dating in 2024...

This week on The Wise Freaks Podcast, buckle up for a wild ride as we tackle some juicy topics! From the big decision of whether or not to have children to the hilarious and petty reasons why we might swipe left on someone, no stone is left unturned.

Join us as we dive into the ever-changing landscape of dating in 2024. From the endless options and challenges of online dating to the struggles of meeting people in real life, we'll dish on it all. Get ready for candid conversations about insecurities, expectations, preferences, and deal breakers.

But that's not all! We'll also tackle the red flags and unhealthy behaviors that can crop up in the dating scene, and share our tips for finding someone with genuine intentions.

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Transcript

Bernie (00:05.835)
Hello? Testing, testing, testing. Okay, I think everything looks good. All right, y'all, we're back in this bitch for another episode of White Spreeks Podcast. It's your boy, Burn, AKA, Bopster, AKA, your fucking stepdad and Desirous or whatever. Whatever y'all, make sure you go stream, liar. I be forgetting to say that.

purr (00:27.95)
period yes stream on our platform Apple Music Spotify Hey, y'all is the lieutenant as y'all know I'm here to Yo step mobile

Bernie (00:35.547)
Okay.

Bernie (00:47.299)
Um, yes, y'all it is the lieutenant. Per the lieutenant that whole backspin that is still just so fucking hilarious to me. It's just funny.

purr (00:51.914)
absolutely shit.

purr (00:58.344)
It's so funny. That woman is my hero.

purr (01:08.314)
I'm fucking here. That was crazy.

Bernie (01:10.472)
Yeah, that is so insane. Yeah, we were just having this conversation about, I don't even know how we got here, but anyway, it's just about kids. And I just like, I just don't think it's, it's a lot. Like, you know, when you really think about it, cause I feel like younger version, I've thought like, you know, it's just all for play, but that shit is no fucking joke.

purr (01:33.863)
yeah like oh yeah you're cute you know little baby running around and then i got older and i was like oh hell no

Bernie (01:44.6)
Nah, dog. That shit's for real, for real.

purr (01:49.039)
I... No.

Bernie (01:52.163)
All day 24. You mean it's, unless it's school, like.

Yeah.

purr (02:00.622)
So you don't go to school for a couple years, the first four years, that's gonna be crazy. Yeah, and then, you know, the groceries is crazy. Long story short, I don't think we wanna do it. I don't wanna do it. I don't know if I wanna do it.

Bernie (02:04.221)
Yeah.

Bernie (02:12.075)
Yeah.

Bernie (02:16.799)
Yeah, I feel like maybe like if I revisited like in five years or something, or it was just like a situation where we're like, okay, maybe we should, you know, maybe adopt. Yeah, I mean, praise him because.

purr (02:28.406)
You're so lucky you can't get pregnant.

purr (02:36.778)
God you ate that, you ate that, yeah. I just, cause I would love to say the same thing but I just feel like I'm gonna get God before then. Let me not speak that into existence. I'm gonna get God.

Bernie (02:49.903)
No, don't do that. Don't conjure that up. Don't conjure that up. But yeah, it really is a wild decision though.

purr (02:56.28)
And let me not even speak negatively.

Bernie (03:02.323)
I feel like you definitely, you just gotta be there. Yeah.

purr (03:02.862)
So shout out to y'all who got kids, because y'all are God's strongest soldier.

Bernie (03:08.639)
Deadass, we need y'all though. They just, I read something about the planet just passed like 8 billion people for like the other day or some shit like that. I don't know if I'm tripping.

purr (03:17.618)
Oh yeah, they don't need they don't need my arm kids man. Y'all good. Because 8 billion is crazy.

Bernie (03:21.231)
I know, that's what I'm saying. I'm like, yeah, that's a lot of motherfuckers out here. So, which also ties into the options thing. So it's like, if you hung up over X, Y, and Z, like we just passed 8 billion people on the planet. So you might be good. It's possible, it is possible that your partner is not in Nebraska, your soulmate. Might not, that might not be that big.

purr (03:27.358)
Yeah, y'all are good.

purr (03:38.771)
None of them have to be.

purr (03:48.098)
You might have to venture out.

Bernie (03:50.484)
That might not be him.

purr (03:52.736)
Leave your time.

Bernie (03:54.896)
It just might not.

purr (03:58.363)
And oddly enough we're going to be talking about dating today again.

Bernie (04:00.723)
Yeah, yeah, that is. Um, what else do we have before we get into that? What do we have?

purr (04:06.167)
that way.

purr (04:11.566)
The only thing I found this funny thing on Facebook, I lean out the platform that I'm never on. But, what did I, but I came across this and it was so funny. It said, how do you tell someone they're breast-stinking Shakespearean language?

Bernie (04:19.513)
What are that?

Bernie (04:37.979)
And this is on Facebook.

purr (04:41.15)
Someone said... Who hath shed upon thy top?

Bernie (04:46.655)
Damn it.

purr (04:51.85)
Oh my god. I don't know why this is so funny to me. Um... It is unbeknownst to me that the wind from thine lips has the stench of a thousand latrines.

Bernie (04:56.855)
It... The shit people come up with...

purr (05:12.614)
What was me?

Bernie (05:13.899)
That's my favorite. It had a poetic air to it. It was, you know what I mean? That was.

purr (05:24.163)
The stench of a thousand latrines, that's crazy.

Bernie (05:28.157)
Insane.

purr (05:31.266)
Oh. What is, what is thou this, I smell it coming from thine lips? Is that death that thou speakest?

Bernie (05:44.639)
Just breast-smell like death, like fucking dead people.

purr (05:48.267)
This nigga said, to breathe or not to breathe. That is the question.

Bernie (05:53.636)
Hahaha!

purr (05:58.515)
Oh my god.

Bernie (06:00.195)
Ooh, thou hath slayeth thy dragon with thy own tongue.

Bernie (06:10.343)
It really is a different crowd on Facebook versus any other platform. You know, like at least Twitter and Instagram is some of the same people, but the niggas on Facebook are not on Twitter and Instagram. They're not there.

purr (06:10.368)
I'm sorry.

purr (06:15.383)
Bro.

purr (06:21.642)
No. And this is, I didn't expect this from them. Like this is funny. Like this shit had me crying. Oh my god.

Bernie (06:34.027)
That's hilarious, the shit they come up with.

purr (06:38.859)
I'm sorry.

Bernie (06:42.043)
I'm still shook over these groups about these people on Facebook about who they're dating and it's like, is this your nigga? Whose man is this?

purr (06:51.619)
I gotta save some that I come across that are really juicy for like next time. But yeah, that's the only reason I be on there sometimes. I'm like, okay, I'm bored. Let me just go through here and I just scroll or whatever and then I can get to that page and I'm like, what's going on over here? Like, who's new? Like, it's so messy. There'll be like any tea.

Bernie (07:17.303)
This is so crazy.

purr (07:19.878)
And they'll be like, yeah, he burning. He really got a girlfriend, his baby mama and kids at home.

but we've been dating for like four months, like sometimes it'll be like juicy and messy. Yeah.

Bernie (07:36.627)
So messy. But how do they know to trust these people? This is crazy.

purr (07:39.799)
Yeah.

purr (07:46.258)
I don't know, like, because like, what do you have to lie for? Honestly, at that point, and then like, if you're coming to this page to like post it, you kind of know like there's 80 individuals and you're asking for like, I know some other girls got some tea here.

Bernie (07:50.827)
Right.

Bernie (07:56.809)
Yeah.

Bernie (08:03.119)
Right. I kind of love that. It's just like, it's just like a little tight knit community of the ladies just supporting one another and just doing low you know, little local checks. Like girl, what y'all know about this nigga?

purr (08:03.266)
So, I don't know. I'll fight it entertaining.

purr (08:13.758)
It's doing like local charity too, because it's just like these niggas just be running the block and stuff. And like the girls are just like, no, let me know. You're not getting away with this, sir. And I love that it's just like for different cities too.

Bernie (08:23.872)
Like, no.

Bernie (08:31.283)
Right. Everybody can find one.

purr (08:32.93)
Like they probably have an LA one, they probably have like a Miami one. And, mm-hmm.

Bernie (08:37.071)
I wonder if it's messy in LA. I'm sure that one's probably busy.

purr (08:41.546)
Yeah, like I wouldn't even want to do that. I'm not going to try and post my business in there or look for my nigga in there.

Bernie (08:48.559)
No, like, I don't know.

purr (08:51.502)
Mm-mm. Y'all can have that.

Bernie (08:52.239)
I'm not...

Bernie (09:00.219)
Okay, but this kind of ties into this other thing that was like the pettiest reason that you won't date someone.

purr (09:08.03)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, I found that on Twitter or aka

Bernie (09:11.18)
very

Bernie (09:17.151)
But they need to just, I can't.

purr (09:21.763)
It's never going to be a thing. Like, it's like trying to make fetch happen. It's not going to happen.

Bernie (09:27.145)
It's not. This. It's not going. Did you watch the new one?

purr (09:31.47)
Yeah, and I didn't- I didn't love it.

Bernie (09:32.882)
Oh.

Oh, damn. Was it like a different twist on it? Like it wasn't exactly the same, right?

purr (09:38.39)
I didn't love it.

purr (09:44.71)
Yeah, I mean it was modernized but they did like the same, like you know they kept like the same plot and stuff like that but it's also a musical so it's based off of the yeah it's based off Mean Girls the musical.

Bernie (09:54.421)
What?

Bernie (09:59.119)
Oh yeah, they did do a musical that like traveled around and shit.

purr (10:02.99)
Mm-hmm. I really only watched it for Renee rap because I like her and she's Regina. Mm-hmm. She's doing her thing She's got like an album out She's a singer. I really only watched it for her And she did great But as a whole But I don't like musicals like that, so I don't think I'm like the target audience, but I love Mean Girl and like

Bernie (10:06.991)
Yeah, she's doing her thing. Yeah.

Bernie (10:17.674)
Oh. Yeah.

Bernie (10:22.871)
That sucks. I'm not a big fan either.

purr (10:32.418)
That's like one of the movies that I know word for word, from beginning to end.

Bernie (10:35.339)
Right.

low-key kind of saying you. I don't see, I just didn't watch it because I don't want to be disappointed. So I just didn't bother.

purr (10:45.042)
Yeah, so you should probably just... Because you're not a musical bitch, either.

Bernie (10:49.632)
No, no, I'm not. And that's why it's like, I understand some stuff I'm like, I try not to just like, cause I'm like, it's not, it's not for me. I know I'm not the target audience and that's cool. So it's just not for me.

purr (10:58.453)
Okay.

But I also saw, I went to go see The Color Purple too, and that was a musical, the remake was a musical. And I didn't mind that. Yeah, I didn't mind that too much.

Bernie (11:08.464)
Oh shit it was, I didn't know that.

Bernie (11:13.903)
Okay. Hmm.

purr (11:15.798)
Like I like that, but different, yeah, different type of musical. But, you know, it is what it is.

Bernie (11:18.207)
different kind of music, you know what I mean? Hmm.

Bernie (11:25.977)
Yeah.

Yeah.

purr (11:31.118)
I gave it a chance because Tina Fey was still a director on it, I believe. Yeah, I think she still had like her hands on it. Like, you know, sometimes they reboot things and then they don't have any of the original, um, directors, yeah, that were involved in the first one. I'm like, how can you reboot something and redo something? You don't have, nobody from the original has like their hands on it.

Bernie (11:45.124)
None of it. People involved.

Bernie (11:56.063)
That's the whole visions off them and that shit like looks like that.

purr (11:59.858)
Yeah, or it just seems inauthentic and just wacky. So, but yeah, it was cute or whatever. If you're a theater girly.

Bernie (12:09.147)
Okay, I think I'm just gonna yeah, and I yeah, I'll eat that for the theater girlies Okay, wait, so yeah this list was talking about the petty reason you won't date someone the first one kind of was kind of Valid somebody who said if he has a cat for a pet

purr (12:15.319)
Oh no.

Yeah.

Bernie (12:33.255)
Now, is it the sense of him having a cat or is it the sense of just being, having a cat period? Like just having the cat. Like no one wants to be around a cat.

purr (12:34.046)
I Yeah

purr (12:42.198)
the person who posted that she's like I can't do cats and I don't really like cats like that either.

Bernie (12:49.019)
Yeah, that could be a deal breaker of like, I can't even like fathom it because like, they got a cat.

purr (12:51.69)
I'm just not a-

purr (12:55.818)
It depends on the cat for real, but like I don't like... I don't really like cats. And they stink.

Bernie (13:05.223)
Yeah, I'ma be honest.

purr (13:06.454)
They're pissing, their litter box smells so rancid, like I don't-

Bernie (13:11.403)
For me, I think it's valid. Just any untrained pet, like for me, it's just like a red, like I'm just not doing it. Like your pet is untrained. Your dog is running all over the sofa. Like it's just not, no.

purr (13:17.71)
I don't know.

purr (13:24.754)
Another thing for me is like an unruly big dog like really any unruly dog period but like an unruly big dog

Bernie (13:25.089)
or life.

Bernie (13:28.78)
on yeah where they're just like

Bernie (13:34.408)
Yeah, I think it's the big dog.

purr (13:37.426)
I don't like that. Like control that fucking beast.

Bernie (13:41.575)
or the cat is on the counters at home. It's just, I don't know.

purr (13:44.966)
Yeah, see, and that's the other reason I don't like cats, because you all go in the litter box, and then you just have free range of the house and jump up on counters and shit like, I don't.

Bernie (13:54.391)
Hehehehe

purr (13:58.162)
I used to, like, for potlucks and stuff like that, like, you know, like, black people are already weird about potlucks and stuff, like, we don't be eating anybody's food. And like, if I find out that you have a cat, I'm not eating your shit. Because I'm already assuming your cat is walking across the stove, like, mittens help you cook this dish. And I don't want mittens to cook my food.

Bernie (14:11.347)
No.

Bernie (14:16.074)
Hehehe

Bernie (14:21.272)
Yeah, no.

Bernie (14:26.015)
Yeah, I'm gonna pass. That's some wild shit. That is a good, that's a valid one. Somebody said yellowish eyes. Okay, I mean, yeah, that's how concerned. Bad teeth, okay, for sure. Too many typos. I could definitely see vocab, like somebody just not being able to.

purr (14:34.518)
Like baby, they got John did.

purr (14:39.458)
for sure.

Oh my god, I used to talk to a nigga who would constantly have like bad grammar and bad like typos and texts and I was like is this a nigga?

Bernie (14:52.246)
Yeah.

Bernie (14:56.051)
We thought it was slow.

purr (14:58.222)
I felt like he was a little slow.

Bernie (15:01.344)
Oh, see, you can't do all that until you know somebody first. Yeah.

purr (15:02.986)
Because I'm like, is it constantly?

Like all the time, like mmm.

Bernie (15:11.231)
That could definitely cause for some pause. To be like, mm, okay, this nigga can't really spell at all. And I'm questioning the reading and writing. Like this is, mm-mm.

purr (15:15.028)
Yeah.

Bernie (15:25.547)
That could, yeah.

purr (15:27.664)
Bad dental hygiene. That's... yeah.

Bernie (15:31.059)
Somebody said they don't change the batteries in the smoke detectors. Most definitely.

purr (15:40.314)
Oh my god, that felt very racially charged, but okay.

Bernie (15:43.363)
Yeah. I don't think, I think this is super petty. Like the rest of these really have been quite valid and not petty, but like this one says a mole on their face. I would never stop staring at it.

purr (15:58.474)
A mole? I don't think that's a...

Bernie (16:01.743)
Yeah, and then this one's petty too. Somebody said, they say that I should come over and we haven't been actually dating. I don't know what that means. Cause I feel like everybody has their own like idea of what that means. It's an exchange to expound on that. It could potentially be actually petty. Cause some of these are not petty, they're like valid.

purr (16:22.538)
Oops, someone said man hips. Child, good night.

Bernie (16:24.875)
What?

Bernie (16:29.431)
Uhhhhhh

purr (16:31.127)
Ooh, this is valid. Snoring.

Bernie (16:34.899)
Yeah, I think that is valid. It's a little petty because maybe they just could be dealing with something, but I can see.

purr (16:44.651)
Like, and I mean like a bad snore like, it'd be me in there cutting her.

Bernie (16:52.116)
Yeah.

purr (16:56.825)
I can't do that. Like a little light snore is cool, but if you be in there like open mouth, cutting up, I can't.

Bernie (16:57.94)
Yeah.

Bernie (17:06.375)
It depends on if it's all the time.

purr (17:10.61)
what when else would it be like when you're sick?

Bernie (17:12.755)
Like, I mean, yeah, like sometimes you're just not snoring all the time. Like some people just snore sometimes. They don't snore every night. I feel like I'm a periodical. Yeah, I'm a periodical snore. So sometimes I be snoring and then sometimes I don't be snoring. It's how I'm positioned. Just roll the bitch over.

purr (17:22.698)
Are you trying to make a justification for yourself?

purr (17:34.702)
Hmm... okay. I feel like that's what snores would say.

purr (17:45.866)
That's exactly what a snorer would say.

Bernie (17:47.191)
Exactly what the snore was saying. Wait, have you stopped dating somebody because they were snoring for real? He's like, oh, this thing is in here. Have you stopped dating someone because they were snoring for real?

purr (17:54.978)
Huh?

purr (17:59.634)
It pissed me off. I thought about it.

Bernie (18:00.803)
Yeah, you're like, okay, no. You're like, okay, this is it was part of the list. It was like, this isn't the only reason I'm not done fucking with you, nigga. But bottom line was you still was.

purr (18:08.902)
Yeah, but...

Yeah, like, I definitely couldn't do that every night. Like, that's crazy.

Bernie (18:16.591)
No, that's crazy.

Somebody said a flat booty. That's petty, but also valid. Pfft.

purr (18:20.503)
Mm-mm.

purr (18:24.31)
valid.

purr (18:34.018)
surfboard booty.

Bernie (18:34.155)
Somebody said if they have an Android.

purr (18:38.199)
Mmm. That's petty.

Bernie (18:39.519)
That's petty. I mean, cause is it that serious? I mean, you can never FaceTime the nigga, like.

Bernie (18:50.407)
You know what I mean? I feel like there's worse things in the world. You can call on Duo or whatever the fuck it is.

purr (18:50.856)
Oh my god.

purr (18:56.373)
What?

Bernie (18:57.271)
I don't know girl, something on Android I think.

purr (19:01.254)
Oh, see, I never did that before.

Bernie (19:03.651)
I've never done it before either, I just think it's an option.

Bernie (19:09.437)
I hate every bit.

purr (19:09.805)
You gotta call on FaceTime or on Facebook.

Bernie (19:12.847)
Yeah. Oh, yeah. Kukala Facebook. I'm sorry now.

purr (19:17.905)
If I have to talk to somebody on Facebook or on Instagram, it's an immediate dub. No, we're not doing that.

Bernie (19:21.643)
That, no.

We're not doing it.

purr (19:27.307)
Let's get out.

Bernie (19:28.607)
That is extremely ghetto.

purr (19:34.478)
Yeah, that's funny. I think that was all of them, for the most part.

Bernie (19:39.699)
Yeah.

Bernie (19:43.571)
Yeah. Should we get into these baby fathers and lovers?

purr (19:51.69)
Yeah, who do I even have?

Bernie (19:54.235)
I was just about to do the same thing, because I know I have put something in here.

Bernie (20:02.927)
Mm-hmm.

purr (20:03.586)
See, I don't even be knowing these niggas' names sometimes, and I just be putting in.

Okay, let me look this mirror up before I...

purr (20:15.359)
I literally have a hair.

purr (20:20.513)
I said, it says dupe that streaming nigga

Bernie (20:25.527)
Who?

purr (20:29.066)
then they're gonna be streaming on Twitch. Isn't his name Duke?

Bernie (20:34.935)
What is that?

purr (20:38.406)
and him and um kai were trying to do that chris brown flip

Bernie (20:38.49)
I said...

Bernie (20:44.579)
I did not see this. Oh, that nigga.

purr (20:50.207)
Yeah, is this saying too?

Bernie (20:51.011)
Oh, I didn't know who that I don't know who that yeah, that sounds about right.

purr (20:55.557)
Okay, yeah, yeah.

Bernie (21:01.396)
Okay... hmm...

purr (21:03.382)
Like this is one of the ones I'm like, I don't even know this person's name. I literally just put him as a description on there. I said that one nigga that be streaming on Twitch.

Bernie (21:09.463)
Just...

purr (21:17.972)
And then I put Duke question mark.

Bernie (21:21.994)
You probably came back and put that later.

purr (21:28.207)
Oh my god, I am sick. So obviously I don't know much about this man. I just happened to see him a couple of times and I was like, not bad.

Bernie (21:31.711)
That is so insane.

Bernie (21:37.975)
Hmm, not bad. I'm wondering.

purr (21:41.13)
And I saw him trying to do that Chris Brown flip and I was like, damn, he actually landed it.

Bernie (21:46.703)
I miss that one. They've been making some money over there on Twitch. There's like a whole community of people who do Twitch and be Twitching. Or not, oops, not to say, not oops, oops. Oh, let me retract that. That was not supposed to come up that way. What did they call that? They be Twitching, I don't know what that is. Yeah.

purr (21:54.639)
Twitch

purr (22:03.022)
That sounded very crack head adjacent.

Bernie (22:13.587)
Yeah.

purr (22:13.968)
What did you?

Bernie (22:17.183)
Because it's like it's a live platform and shit. People send you money. You just live chat, you listen to music, play video games, talk, whatever. Kai, he be getting money.

purr (22:21.934)
Mm-hmm. What's his name? Should be going off. Yeah. This should be going off.

Bernie (22:30.207)
he would get money. It's a whole thing over there though. I haven't really delved into it or whatever, but it's a whole situation.

purr (22:36.158)
me either because I just I don't know I and maybe I will one day but right now it's just like I don't really see myself watching a grown man stream but I mean it seems like it's pretty entertaining

Bernie (22:48.839)
Yeah, I guess what else are they doing? Yeah, it looks entertaining, you know what I mean? If they just had like doing fun shit or something or it's like they do.

purr (22:56.61)
But do they play video games? Or... I know he's brought people on and stuff like that, but like, do they come as a guest and then they play video games? Cause I don't want to watch someone play video games.

Bernie (22:59.415)
I think they watched them play video games. Or something.

Bernie (23:11.068)
I think they play video games and talk. Maybe they talk, that's what it is.

and like ask questions or something.

purr (23:20.086)
This is the most unprepared I've been for a baby daddy my entire life. I don't know what this nigga do. I don't know what the-

Bernie (23:24.479)
I don't know. This is the niggas description.

purr (23:28.724)
Eh!

Bernie (23:33.112)
I'm dead. OK, so mine this week is actually Future. I don't know, not much else to say, but it's so toxic. But Future looks like, I feel like he just gets missed. I don't know why. He's solid. I mean, he's a little toxic, but definitely, Future is cute. And he be quiet. He don't really respond to shit. He just be doing his thing in his own little world.

purr (23:36.866)
Hmm, that's so toxic.

purr (23:58.15)
Yeah, I mean, I don't think anyone ever questioned his looks. It's just... I think it's toxic. Yeah. Toxic.

Bernie (24:03.031)
The toxicity.

Bernie (24:08.65)
It's a poison!

purr (24:10.358)
Thanks.

Bernie (24:15.639)
Oh, shit. It really is though. Never decline, not at all, not at all. And you know, like clean dreads too, like.

purr (24:19.271)
The face card ain't never declined.

purr (24:27.862)
He has, he does have good dreams.

Bernie (24:29.659)
Yeah, it's not like falling off the bone or nothing. Shit style, right?

purr (24:33.237)
Thank you.

Bernie (24:35.867)
It was, that was the shade at nobody.

purr (24:43.694)
We're trying to be falling off the bone.

Bernie (24:45.375)
They do! Like, what is going on with ya?

Are y'all drinking water? What is happening?

purr (24:52.994)
Okay.

purr (24:57.206)
That's a good take besides, I mean, on the facial end.

Bernie (25:01.703)
Yeah, the other, I just separate the music and the looks. Everything else is just, it is what it is.

purr (25:04.608)
everything else.

purr (25:09.978)
I'm sorry, his name is... Nevadius... Nevadius de Moncais

Bernie (25:15.112)
Mm-hmm.

Bernie (25:19.99)
Yeah.

purr (25:20.866)
Wow, I would just be happy with future Hendrix at that point.

Bernie (25:27.929)
Hahahaha

purr (25:31.79)
You got some names on that, mother-

Bernie (25:33.975)
That's a quite the name, yeah?

purr (25:36.658)
y'all got some names on this motherfucker remember when webby tried to do that drop for the breakfast club and he said y'all got some names on this motherfucker

Bernie (25:40.561)
Oh, I think maybe he changed his-

purr (25:52.058)
DJ Angela Yee and Charlotte McGaig. Dug all.

Bernie (25:52.619)
They envy. Yeah, they do. That's all. Toronto Jess, I'm glad she got her spot over there. Good for her.

purr (26:06.642)
I know, I'm glad she's expecting her second child. Yeah.

Bernie (26:12.671)
Wait, she pregnant? Oh shit. I thought I saw something about somebody saying that. I thought it was a lie.

purr (26:16.978)
And.

purr (26:21.918)
No, nope, she is.

Bernie (26:24.752)
Oh wow, let's go for her.

purr (26:26.406)
And so she's like, I got my chick and I got my baby. My little bundle of jewelry. Good for her. Like I said, shout out to the parents. Somebody gotta do it.

Bernie (26:31.007)
My Bundle of Joy.

Bernie (26:35.655)
No, that's right. Shout out to the viewers that's doing the damn thing. Somebody got to do it. And at this point, I don't know if anymore, because like I said, we do got eight billion motherfuckers right on here.

purr (26:43.47)
Thank you.

purr (26:48.434)
I think we're all, we're at capacity, we're all close.

Bernie (26:52.339)
And that's cool.

purr (26:54.199)
Let's hang it up.

Bernie (26:57.452)
Um, okay, so I guess let's get into these memes

purr (27:03.334)
Duke in the baby years, okay.

Bernie (27:05.5)
into two again.

purr (27:09.354)
That's his name. That's what his mama named him.

Bernie (27:10.387)
That's his name. That's what she named him.

Bernie (27:18.975)
that as well.

purr (27:19.875)
Okay, yeah, let's get into it. Let's, hold on. That's because losers look the

Bernie (27:33.431)
Okay, we need to fold up.

purr (27:37.537)
Mm. Okay.

Bernie (27:38.327)
There we go. Okay, cool. All right, so y'all, the meets this week is basically dating in 2024. The streets is saying that it's crazy and it's a nightmare out there. And the crazy thing about the nightmare is like, it's from like both genders, all age ranges. It's just a nightmare. I'm like, what is this going on? Are we just miscommunicating as...

purr (27:46.683)
A nightmare.

purr (27:52.803)
Just don't do it.

Bernie (28:05.755)
As human beings, are we just being missed? I don't know what's happening.

But it is, it's from like, you know what I mean? Just talking to, hearing different perspectives of people like, you know, even older dating, even younger folks dating, even mid-aged people dating is rough. Like, it's like, God damn.

purr (28:13.019)
And I can tell you.

purr (28:23.578)
across the board it's just like, bam.

Bernie (28:25.223)
It's just across the board.

Um, but this was what they were saying that some of the, after a little bit of, you know, discovery, some of the things that are like, I guess, you know, trending upon like dating and stuff that people are talking about, which is sharing viewpoints on stuff that's probably that could be driving the wedge. People are sharing more viewpoints on shit. I think that could be something that is effective.

purr (28:54.899)
Oh God, yeah. Like.

Bernie (28:55.943)
I mean, it's all be it all be on your profile, don't it?

purr (29:00.466)
It'll be on there and then I mean people will be dying to talk about it and That like you know, you saw that whole thing that I said which That was crazy The credit it was on his profile to talk about it. So I lit And it just spiraled

Bernie (29:11.999)
That's crazy!

Bernie (29:18.315)
Where? Like...

purr (29:22.162)
Yikes.

Bernie (29:22.651)
It's true, but that's what's like.

I don't know. It could be that's part of the drawing. I mean, I guess we should have those conversations, so maybe it's better. But somebody was saying, and they said location is a deal breaker. It is not a deal breaker. People are I guess dating more online, but they're not.

purr (29:43.43)
Yeah, but like, you still not dating online, like not in your city though?

Bernie (29:50.64)
And I think it's also spreading the pool though too.

purr (29:55.006)
Good.

Bernie (29:55.967)
like more out because people are dating that are in one city in somewhere else. But it limits that option there, even though they're not there with that person, you know? So yeah, it does.

purr (30:10.026)
I guess if you want to learn this, that's cool.

Bernie (30:12.923)
Yeah.

Bernie (30:18.015)
But it seems like the biggest thing is kind of like this online thing. A lot of people are saying it was because there's so many people and there's so many options. You can just weed people out. Like even if it's over some of like we were talking earlier, the pettiest things. So it's like, you know, you're like, oh, that person's this because you can put everything on the profile. You know.

purr (30:37.375)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah, and like certain stuff you can like weed people out by different, you know, characteristics. Like, oh they got kids? I'm good on that. Oh, they don't have kids? I'm good on that. Uh, didn't graduate from this school? Okay, pass.

Bernie (30:40.694)
Yeah.

Bernie (30:51.7)
Yeah.

Yeah.

Bernie (30:59.696)
Right, right.

purr (31:02.658)
Oh, he a Pisces? No, ma'am. You know, yeah. It gives you the option to be like extremely picky. And I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Bernie (31:05.36)
Lowkey that's where they're at. Yes

Yeah!

Bernie (31:20.635)
I think it's become a little bit of a bad thing, and here is why. I say this because I think nowadays we got into this place where people are like a little bit afraid of a little like differing of two existing opinions sometimes or like ways to see things and people are just like, well, we have to like be on a quarter in every aspect. And it's like, no, we don't have to see it the same way. Like as long as.

like the moral and the value pieces like intact. Other of those other things can kind of like things shift around. They should be able to because it's just diverse perspective. Like, you know, like, even like talking about the zodiac sign where people are like, I just can't, I could never do it. But some people are like dead ass for real. Like I am not like this niggas fine, but I'm not swiping right on this Scorpio. You got me fucked up because I know how Scorpios do. This nigga look toxic. Girl.

purr (32:09.514)
I'm not doing it.

purr (32:15.602)
Bye. Yup.

Bernie (32:16.51)
haha

purr (32:25.482)
No, no man.

No man.

Bernie (32:30.884)
Yeah, yeah. Yeah. And then especially like, you know, the hype piece. Woo! That's why niggas be lying.

purr (32:32.058)
Not today, not over here.

purr (32:37.074)
So yeah.

purr (32:42.118)
You can, if you upgrade to premium, you can put in your height preference too.

Bernie (32:47.391)
Oh really?

purr (32:48.939)
Mm-hmm. I'm not doing it, but...

Bernie (32:52.283)
Oh, it's just really cut the board down. That's why niggas be lying now.

purr (32:58.714)
And it's like, but don't do that though, because we're gonna go on a date and then I'm gonna feed that you five eight. And it's like, you could have just told me that you was five eight.

Bernie (33:11.08)
Right.

purr (33:12.454)
and let me make that decision.

Bernie (33:14.815)
Yep. Yeah.

purr (33:20.286)
instead of having me show up and then I'm wearing heels because I think you six and now I'm uncomfortable.

Bernie (33:31.483)
Exactly. And it's like, you could have worn a boot or a pump that day and just fuck the whole data.

purr (33:31.878)
Just be straight on.

Bernie (33:39.751)
You know what I mean? Ha ha

purr (33:41.162)
yeah like just be yourself more of a story be yourself um with something else on there that you can do yeah you can put the height i know you can choose like a location

Bernie (33:51.336)
Uh...

purr (33:58.986)
kids, sodium,

Bernie (34:02.283)
That is why I...

Bernie (34:08.188)
Okay, that's... I mean, I-

purr (34:09.546)
I'm like that's weird. What it should be is last STD check within the last three months or over the last three months.

Bernie (34:14.554)
Yeah.

Bernie (34:18.819)
Yeah, like that seems more important than like a vaccination. And plus, like, is the COVID vaccine that important as opposed to all of the other vaccinations? Are we just negating those that and are we just assuming? Like, what are we doing with that? Like vaccination is so fucking broad. Like, what are we talking about right now? Like, is it that important?

purr (34:33.706)
I, it was clearly a feature that got added during COVID, but it's like, still like such a weird thing to ask. And you know, people are probably making decisions based off of they're like, oh no, uh-uh, they went and got the vaccine, child, I'm all set. Like.

Bernie (34:49.575)
I don't know, they are.

Bernie (34:54.46)
And that's how dumb.

Because it's like, make your own choice for your own body. I think where it comes to where you have to make the decision and think about that piece is like, when it comes down to kids. If you guys are gonna have, if you're gonna have kids with this person or something. And it's like, okay, now we have to talk about whether we're gonna vaccinate the children because you don't believe in vaccines. And I'm like, maybe I do or something. Or maybe they're just like, I don't believe in vaccinating myself, but do it for the kids. That's fun. You know, you never know. Like, yeah. Yeah.

purr (35:05.969)
Yeah.

purr (35:17.271)
Yeah, that's a good point.

purr (35:21.433)
Mm-hmm.

purr (35:24.742)
Or they could be like fucking kids too. Like we all about to get measles or whatever. Like, I don't know.

Bernie (35:30.862)
Hehehehe

purr (35:33.77)
I don't know what the kids are doing these days or not doing.

Bernie (35:37.007)
Yeah, I don't know what they do.

Bernie (35:42.431)
Um...

Bernie (35:47.327)
But they were just saying one of the biggest issues is just like online dating apps are just becoming more common. So it's just hard to find people out like locally and just like connect with people in a real way.

purr (35:55.815)
Mm-hmm.

purr (35:59.426)
I feel that because and then like the time that you are out and it's not like a social setting like it's not like at the bar or you know whatever social setting or whatever. You out and you try to like run errands or something like that. Bitch I'm busy. Do not get in my way. I'm at the gym. I'm like don't bother me. Like I'm not even in the mood.

Bernie (36:15.196)
Yeah.

Bernie (36:21.963)
Right.

purr (36:29.866)
for all that.

Bernie (36:31.619)
Yeah.

purr (36:32.638)
just worked all day, now I'm trying to run my errands, I'm trying to hurry up, or I'm running my errands in between meetings, and I'm trying to hurry up and get back. Yeah, and I don't know, like it's just like.

Bernie (36:40.791)
before something else, yeah, yeah.

purr (36:49.162)
I don't know. Really, I feel like the only time it's easier to talk to people is when it's, like maybe a friend is throwing a kickback or something like that.

Bernie (36:58.919)
Yeah, my way of like mutual friends, mutual friends. I feel like that's usually a safe bet, although you like sometimes gotta be careful about that because if the shit goes sour, it could fuck up the whole situation.

purr (37:00.762)
be like a mutual friend.

purr (37:12.198)
Yeah, if it's like two mutual of a friend. Yeah, two cli- Yeah, I can see that too.

Bernie (37:13.643)
Too close or too mutual, yeah.

If it's a friend of a friend, it could be a little bit better, you know, or something like that, or a friend of a friend of a friend, or, you know, yeah.

purr (37:26.69)
Yeah, but like, you know, some type of like group setting like that compared to like even like the bar, like, you know, being out like that, like, and just, you know, meeting someone out is like, at least there's like a kind of like a icebreaker there.

Bernie (37:47.119)
And then you have a, yeah, you have a feel for a little bit of who they are, but also like you're in a setting to where you could dip if this isn't all that or whatever, you know? Yeah.

purr (37:47.322)
or like a buffer there.

purr (37:58.269)
Just like a safer intimate setting than just being out at the bar and stuff like that. I don't know, I never take no negative series that I meet at the bar.

Bernie (38:00.872)
It is.

Bernie (38:07.503)
No, but it's like, it depends on the follow up. It's on the follow up of like, are they pursuing you in a weird way of like, let's just go out and grab coffee or something. Like, it was cool to me.

purr (38:08.462)
or like out.

purr (38:17.514)
Yeah.

Bernie (38:20.659)
And that's the problem is a lot of the time is to follow up or somebody just trying to like, okay, they come home with me tonight. Fuck it. All right. Lord Jesus.

purr (38:26.982)
Yeah, like, I'm all set.

Bernie (38:31.593)
So...

purr (38:31.78)
I just, I don't take things seriously from the bar.

Bernie (38:34.595)
No, no, because of course people are drunk and it's like, are they for real?

purr (38:40.827)
Yeah, exactly.

Bernie (38:45.159)
So there was this thread and it was in the ass man. It says, where are men supposed to meet women in 2024 to date online dating's crap. So clear, like men are having these issues too. And it's like, damn, there's a missed thing here. You know what I mean? Like the girls looking for the guys, guys looking for the girls, hell. I'm sure it's probably crazy for the lesbian.

purr (38:58.922)
I'm sorry.

purr (39:07.554)
Yeah, it's a miscommunication it seems like.

Bernie (39:13.551)
Mm hmm. Yes, it's a miscommunication. It's like, whatever is being thrown out there is being perceived differently. And then it's translating weird, in like real time. And it just doesn't like connect. And then it just that's what's happening with like, the dating scene or something. Yeah, somebody said bars used to be the number one spot to meet women back in the day. But now, it is not a good book.

purr (39:37.498)
Okay, that's what I'm saying.

Bernie (39:41.843)
Somebody said it sounds like churches might be the better place. If that's where you know your heart is.

purr (39:48.906)
Alright.

Bernie (39:51.135)
And somebody else said, am I the only one not giving a fuck and still approaching women at gym and coffee shots? Somebody said I got a number on the sidewalk the other day. Another time at the subway. I don't get the fuck. OK. He said he can't see. I don't know what you're all doing, but shit. You hear me? He said a Thursday basket. Hold up.

purr (40:07.62)
Okay. Listen, I'm sure my shot of red garlic.

purr (40:15.338)
I'm going to go ahead and close the video.

Bernie (40:19.543)
All right, that is like terrible advice. Somebody said, flip your mindset and convince yourself that the biggest stud is the man who hits on her because that's what men do. The outcome doesn't matter. You're expressing your masculinity just by having the balls to go do it. So go look good by taking your shot and people respect that. I've talked to a lot of women about how we met afterwards and it's also not uncommon for them to admit that they were actually the nervous ones because they thought that I was hot and wanted to go as well.

purr (40:19.946)
Thank you.

purr (40:23.848)
Or what?

Bernie (40:49.535)
These are hot girls saying this. They're just people too. Okay.

Bernie (40:57.039)
I understand. That's good advice. I mean, it is true. They're average is regular people. I think if you take that away from the angst from it, like everybody's nervous a little bit too. So it's like just how you approach it.

purr (40:57.962)
I think that's good advice.

Bernie (41:14.011)
Maybe. And it does depend on the setting. It depends on the setting though too. Yeah, it depends on the setting most definitely.

purr (41:15.558)
Maybe.

purr (41:27.322)
I just feel like online, like you'll start talking to these niggas and then like I don't want to like don't what you doing you today like what am I doing I'm usually doing the same shit every day I'm working for eight hours and then I don't know like what I'm doing the other hours but it's just like

Bernie (41:42.752)
Yeah.

Bernie (41:58.519)
There's meaningful conversation to be held beyond that.

purr (41:59.034)
You know, usually 8 to 5, like I'm usually working, so... No point in asking then.

Bernie (42:07.111)
Now, there's meaningful stuff to talk about aside from just like, what are you doing? You know what I mean? Like.

purr (42:15.87)
Like, so, plan a date.

Bernie (42:19.273)
Da.

purr (42:19.775)
sound.

Bernie (42:22.056)
Somebody said, you know, like department stores are a good way to meet people like out shopping like

Bernie (42:30.269)
I could see that.

Yeah, like, you know, you're both at like, yeah, you're both at like a mall or some shit like that.

purr (42:35.466)
shopping.

purr (42:39.614)
That's not bad. Yeah, because if you're shopping, it's more of like a leisure thing. You're probably not in a rush.

Bernie (42:46.132)
Yeah.

Bernie (42:49.759)
That actually is pretty, that sounds like kind of good advice. I mean chopping.

purr (42:54.65)
It's a no.

showing you a shot of the mall.

Bernie (42:58.983)
at the mall, you know what I mean? If you just milling around, just chilling, doing whatever, like.

purr (43:05.95)
That used to be the spot that used to be with the kids, where the kids would hang and shoot they shot, but I don't know now.

Bernie (43:06.12)
Maybe.

Bernie (43:11.14)
Right.

Bernie (43:15.119)
Okay, this was a solid one. Somebody said through regular like hobby. So like bar trivia, hiking, camping, indoor rock climbing. Okay, that's really niche, my niggas. So you're gonna have to know people for you to start doing that. Yeah. Like that's very much like you're gonna have to know somebody to go do that. But I feel like rock climbing might maybe you if you was doing my indoor rock climbers. I don't know. Bar trivia might be fine. Might be weird to go alone though.

purr (43:27.09)
That was so specific, that's ridiculous.

purr (43:46.086)
yeah some stuff i'm like you gotta get art you don't have to go with somebody but

It's not really something that you would go at alone, unless it is like a hobby or a sport.

Bernie (43:58.879)
Right. Like a craft, like if any kind of craftsmanship, you could probably do that dolo.

purr (44:05.976)
Mm-hmm or like sports or something like that like if you're on a team

Bernie (44:08.297)
Yeah.

purr (44:12.19)
But other than that, it's just real get off.

Bernie (44:18.159)
It is like I would say you could probably go to paint and sip or like some type of sipping whatever like that. But that could be awkward to go by yourself and like, might be able to meet people but yeah, that could get real weird up in that hole. Yeah.

purr (44:28.411)
Yeah, you don't know nobody.

purr (44:32.463)
Yeah, I don't think I would do that.

Or like, I don't know, like they have like meetup events? Like local events. Even that, I don't know. Would you go to that by yourself though?

Bernie (44:39.465)
Yeah.

local meatas.

I think you could if it was a community of people, like example, if you were into, okay, like say like MSU, right? Sports, they were like, I love football. You could find a meetup in like a local city that where there's a group because they're everywhere, you know, or even if you're like into like skateboarding or some shit like that, like you could find a local meetup where niggas skateboard. Or if you were into like, you know, book booking, there's local book clubs, I think.

purr (45:01.758)
true.

purr (45:07.719)
Mm-hmm.

Bernie (45:14.599)
I mean, I can shit the first place I go to the library. That's what this is reading it. Boom. You know what? Yeah.

purr (45:20.559)
Find you a little Joe Goldberg in there, you know.

Well, mine is like the murdering and stuff, but like, you know, that nigga liked books and stuff. Maybe that wasn't the best example.

Bernie (45:30.247)
Yeah, definitely minus the murder. I don't... Find you a gold Joe Goldberg. Oh, I don't think that's a good idea. The nigga killed about 13 bitches. I don't know.

purr (45:49.362)
Oh my god, I'm not nigga Leprechaun's bookstore. That was not a good example.

Bernie (45:56.359)
But yeah, that is like... Yeah. That's a good idea though. You really could find somebody up in the bookstore. I mean, I wonder, like, I'm sure it's... Yeah, bookstores even, like...

purr (45:57.234)
That was the first bookworm I could think of, damn it.

Bernie (46:14.311)
and not just like the library. Mm-hmm.

purr (46:18.411)
Go to your local barns and noble.

Bernie (46:21.055)
And it's always a smart bitch working at the library too. So like, or a smart nigga in there. So if that's really what you're into, like I'm sure there's.

purr (46:29.578)
next.

Bernie (46:32.851)
Uh...

purr (46:33.034)
I'm gonna start looking at different places. Cause what did they say anything in this thread about anybody mentioned Home Depot? Because I remember the girlies were saying something about Home Depot and like that's where you go to find you a manly man.

Bernie (46:41.531)
I think that's where lesbians are though.

Bernie (46:49.071)
I think you're right. That's probably a good place and just look innocent. You don't know what you're doing. You're like, you know what I mean? I'm just trying to build. Yeah, that's a good idea. That's a great idea. You're like, I'm just building a birdhouse. They're like, bitch. You just start building birdhouses. Maybe that's the new hobby. You just start building birdhouses and you just wander around Home Depot looking for a ticket. I mean, that's not a bad idea.

purr (46:56.35)
You like... I don't know, without Janet.

purr (47:03.782)
I'm about to do it.

Yeah

purr (47:13.561)
Yes.

purr (47:17.143)
What do you do? I'm Bill Burr.

Bernie (47:19.188)
I'm finished.

purr (47:24.32)
Oh my god. Just one for our home people looking down.

Bernie (47:28.103)
Looking dumb. Honestly, please report back.

purr (47:30.194)
Okay, I might try it.

purr (47:35.538)
I'm gonna do it, I'm just gonna walk around Home Depot. I'm not gonna have anything in mind for what I need, but I'm just gonna go, strut the aisles, see what happens.

Bernie (47:46.431)
Just to see what's going on.

purr (47:50.701)
That's fucking hilarious.

Bernie (47:53.719)
that as well. Okay, so there was this other thread too and I saw this reddit in here and it really stuck with me. Hold on.

Bernie (48:12.063)
Here it goes, this was crazy. This was in the dating. So I was thinking we could just go and just give these little, this dating advice. I didn't read the whole thing. I just saw the title and it really shook me. It said, I found my boyfriend's porn account. I feel so stupid. All the women he liked on his account are skinny, very conveniently attractive. I'm literally fat.

purr (48:31.111)
Mmm.

Bernie (48:34.175)
He continued interacting with porn accounts even after we started talking. I don't know if I'm overreacting because he just interacted with emojis, but it still makes me feel so dirty. I feel disgusted by my body. We met online and then actually met in real life after a month on vacation. I can only imagine his disgust when he first laid eyes on me. Oh my God, sis. It's so sad. Why is she calling herself up like this?

purr (48:45.293)
Oh.

purr (48:53.405)
That's so sad.

Bernie (48:57.503)
She said, it's so fucking embarrassing. I can't stop crying. I feel so hurt. Maybe it's a red flag, but he hasn't told any of his friends about me as far as I know, while literally everyone super close to me knows about him. I feel so stupid. And I found out that he lied about not liking some kinks. He unfollowed the thirst account on his IG after I pointed it out to him. He's still following that account on his Twitter. I feel stupid. What happens now? Do we end things or am I being overdramatic? I thought we were gonna get married.

purr (49:26.669)
Alright.

Bernie (49:28.723)
Wilneath? I mean, he still likes you, even if he is talking to skinny hoes online. I just, I'm confused.

purr (49:31.465)
Mmm.

purr (49:36.49)
Cool.

Bye.

purr (49:44.283)
I feel like, well, I definitely feel like the conversation is more important, but the fact that it's making her feel so bad about it, I feel like even with the conversation, like even if he reassures her, I feel like it's still going to be bothering her that, you know, like what he likes is so different from her, like the polar opposite of her. And it made her that upset to cry about it.

Bernie (49:48.125)
Yeah.

purr (50:11.866)
that it's still going to bother her in some way.

Bernie (50:14.475)
That is very true. So it might, it's not gonna undo that hurt that she's gonna feel. Yeah, it's not gonna go away. Honestly, I wanna see pics of her because I feel like she might be OD on how big she is. Like, you know how some people would just be OD, like, I'm so fat! And you're like, girl, please.

purr (50:16.826)
You know, it's not just gonna go away.

purr (50:24.551)
Okay.

Bernie (50:37.255)
It could be one of those situations.

purr (50:38.798)
I don't think a picture is gonna help.

Bernie (50:41.183)
But yeah, I guess that's her own thing that she hit.

purr (50:42.678)
me personally. She feel like she fit and

Bernie (50:47.195)
Yeah, this is true. Yeah, she has to go dig into self and like fix that. This nigga is not going to be the one to do it. And his porn account is like not that's yeah, the conversation can be held.

purr (50:56.707)
No.

purr (51:01.414)
sounds more like a personal thing but like that is kind of fucked up like

purr (51:07.986)
Yeah, like, why is your...

purr (51:12.006)
Yeah, like why is your taste completely different from what... Like hello? That's weird.

Bernie (51:17.277)
Yeah.

Bernie (51:20.915)
She might, yeah, they need to have the conversation. I think it's worth an explanation or at least to understand where his thinking is, you know.

purr (51:32.522)
course day.

Bernie (51:33.719)
Poor girl. Get you some help, sis.

Bernie (51:40.9)
Uhhhhhh

Bernie (51:45.183)
This one was kind of wild. I don't know if I should even. My partner, I said my partner yelled at me because I can't squirt. That was the title. So I'm just like.

Bernie (51:59.567)
Okay, it says when we first became physically intimate in our relationship, 27 year old girl, 29 year old man was very attentive about my pleasure and making sure I orgasm every time. As a relationship progresses, attentiveness became obsession. There was so much underlying pressure on me to orgasm. Sometimes when I orgasm, he would question it and tell me that I'm lying. And then he became fixated on making me squirt. I never been able to do so that in any of my previous relationships, and it wasn't something I had any desire to be able to do now.

During sex, I would feel this pressure buildup that would sensation in like I need to pee, but I would ask to stop or change positions. Maybe it was actually possible for me to squirt. But again, I had no desire for it. And the reason I had no desire was because there was never any preparedness for such, you know, lying down a towel or whatever. I could tell he was frustrated during sex, but it was subtle. At different times outside of sex, I had multiple conversations with him about squirting and how porn has given the illusion that squirting means a stronger orgasm.

I expressed my appreciation that he wanted to give me a better orgasm, but I assured him that I enjoyed sex just the way it is and that I have no complaints about how I orgasm or how strong they are. I also shared how some women biologically cannot squirt and that is okay. There's nothing wrong with them and I needed him to let off on the pressure that he put on me to be able to do it. These conversations felt productive in the moment, but as soon as we would have sex again, the fixation was back. The same cycle over and over. Me wanting to stop when I had that feeling and him being annoyed with me.

He has shared that a partner from his past was able to squirt, so maybe that's where this fixation comes from. The fixation came to a head when one night during sex, the same thing happened to me, asking to slow down, change positions when I got that feeling. Only this time he exploded. He withdrew from me immediately, inside muttered underneath his breath and stormed off to the bathroom in his boxes. I laid there completely naked. It's like, what is, what are you doing? What? I'm just like.

purr (53:49.368)
What?

Bernie (53:58.295)
I'm unpacking this as I'm reading this, I'm just like, what is going on?

purr (54:02.627)
You're mad? You're big mad.

Bernie (54:04.971)
This is insane. She said he stormed off in his boxes. I lay there completely naked and frozen in place after a minute or two of shock. I grabbed my baggy shirt and sat up. He came back from the washroom and went off on me. He said, I don't care about how he feels. If I cared, I would just do this one thing for him. I didn't know what to say or do. I just said, I'm sorry. And I went home. I'm just trying to process this. I feel really anxious about that, being able to squirt and fulfill that desire for my partner. I feel like if I can't do this, my partner and any future partners won't wanna say, won't wanna stay with me.

Does anyone have helpful tips for getting over this anxiety and mental block?

Bernie (54:42.635)
Yeah

purr (54:44.71)
What? I'm sorry, this man stormed all.

Bernie (54:47.807)
He stormed off in his boxers.

to the bathroom was like, yo, you just not respecting me dog, like, what? Cut it out. Yo.

purr (54:52.774)
because he wanted to be showered.

purr (55:02.83)
Oh my god, you are not respecting me, dawg.

Bernie (55:07.135)
What are you talking about? I mean...

purr (55:09.63)
Why would that make you irate?

Bernie (55:13.831)
I think that there is a deeper issue that's happening here in that she's already had multiple conversations with him at this stage and that the outburst is like excessive.

purr (55:26.154)
That's so unwarranted and uncalled for that I wouldn't even know what to do. Like, I'm sorry, you're mad. You're mad because I won't pee. Like you want to get flooded is what you're saying.

Bernie (55:34.666)
no, like...

Bernie (55:42.356)
And she keeps saying like, yo, we're not prepared for anything like that to happen. So it's like.

purr (55:46.67)
Yeah, like why do you want to ruin everything? Why do you want to ruin a sheet?

Bernie (55:53.11)
I don't.

purr (55:56.106)
This is so strange. That is very strange borderline crack behavior. I don't like it. It's kind of a red flag too. Because like why are you getting that upset?

Bernie (56:03.303)
Yeah.

Bernie (56:08.007)
I think it's a red flag. I definitely think it's a red flag. I think she should kind of like, you know, move on from this one. Yeah.

purr (56:17.165)
That's kind of scary, creepy, like why are you that bad?

Bernie (56:22.351)
Mm, yeah. It is very kind of creepy. OK, here, this is a great note to end on here, maybe. It says, should I include that I don't drink in my bio? 26-year-old hetero male. This is a hinge app dating question. It says, I've had a few matches. The drinking.

purr (56:31.946)
I'm going to go to bed.

purr (56:40.643)
Oh yeah, that's another thing that you can have on.

drinking, smoking, cigarettes, and drugs highly enough.

Bernie (56:51.043)
Okay, interesting. I mean, that's an interesting thing to put on there, even if you did. Okay, so...

purr (56:55.314)
Mm-hmm.

Bernie (57:05.83)
Yeah!

purr (57:05.87)
I mean, you might have something in common with someone else who... It could be a conversation starter.

Bernie (57:09.115)
Yeah, and that is okay. It could totally be a good one.

Bernie (57:17.599)
Jesus. Ugh.

Bernie (57:23.219)
It says, I've had a few matches where the chatting and the texting was really going well until we got to dinner together, but I never ordered any alcohol and it seemed to be to weird her out. Everything kind of fizzled after. I want to stress this happens very often, but it seems to be a red flag for some people. I'm not a recovering alcoholic. This isn't a religious thing. I just don't like how drinking makes me feel. So I just don't drink.

I'm actually fine with being around it or a date ordering some for herself, it's just not for me. Should I put some form of this in my bio? I don't want to sound judgy or imply that I or anyone else has a problem, but I also don't want to waste anyone's time if this is a deal breaker.

purr (58:09.786)
I mean, yeah, I don't see why that would be a deal breaker for anyone. But like he said, you can put that in your. Hinge doesn't really have like a bio, but you can put that on your profile. Like it'll say drinking yes or no, or moderate. Or I think like socially or something like that. And you just put no. And then people go through and be like, oh, okay. So they don't drink.

Bernie (58:29.441)
Yeah.

Bernie (58:38.487)
No? Yeah, that's fine.

purr (58:40.058)
And if that is an absolute deal breaker for them, then they can keep a push.

Bernie (58:44.311)
Cut.

purr (58:48.722)
But like, I don't feel like that's as much of a red flag as like, if this is drugs or cigarettes.

Bernie (58:55.599)
Yeah, then that's a different.

Bernie (59:01.375)
That's different.

purr (59:06.226)
drugs is really bold like you put on there like yeah I do drugs and what about it?

Bernie (59:12.855)
I mean, my thing, stand on it. Stand on it. If that's what you do, I guess.

purr (59:18.611)
I will say I haven't come across that like but it is an option I will say that.

Bernie (59:20.736)
No.

Bernie (59:28.403)
Yeah. I think...

I guess bottom line is, this date is hard out here. I can only imagine how tough it is, especially in a world where nobody, everybody's afraid of like, you know, nobody wants to get hurt, obviously, cause that does not sound like fun, but, you know, everybody's just a little like, you just gotta be cautious out here cause everybody's just a little weird sometimes.

purr (59:38.41)
Don't unknow a child.

purr (59:45.21)
It's real good.

purr (01:00:04.366)
everyone's a little weird that's what i'm figuring out yes the intentions are i don't know like yeah not pure they just seem i don't know like everyone just no one just has like that pure intention anymore it seems like very rare very rare

Bernie (01:00:05.391)
a little weird. You just don't know the intention.

Bernie (01:00:13.428)
And are they pure?

Bernie (01:00:25.779)
Yeah. It's like they're looking for something for whatever reason.

purr (01:00:30.862)
Mm-hmm. Like they want something whatever it may be like everyone's looking for Some way to get ahead or like they want something out of someone and I Don't think it should be like that. I feel like it should like yeah, I want That person but like we should add Into it pour into each other. I feel like a lot of people are just taking take

Bernie (01:00:42.647)
Mm-hmm.

Bernie (01:00:55.839)
Taking, yeah, like, no nigga, lift me up too. Like, it's gotta be both. Like there's nothing wrong with looking for partnership either and I think that's also like a thing too where I think where we get to a place where it's like, nah, I don't want, it's okay to look for partnership. Like that's cool. Like I think people get scared because they think everybody's looking to get married or like have a baby tomorrow. It's like, no nigga, like just partnership, nigga. Just can we have a good time and get to know each other and figure out what this is?

purr (01:01:03.433)
Yeah.

purr (01:01:09.609)
Amen.

purr (01:01:21.051)
No. Yeah. Can we hang out? Yeah.

Bernie (01:01:25.291)
Can we hang out? What's the detriment of hanging out and getting to know somebody anymore? Like, it's not a scary thing to do. I mean, shit.

purr (01:01:32.586)
Can we kick it? I mean, damn.

purr (01:01:37.822)
What else can you call it so people don't get so intimidated by it because I feel like Maybe like dating is like ah No commitment Help and it's just like what we just kicking we're hanging out Real casual try to figure this out

Bernie (01:01:42.863)
Mm-hmm. You feel like people just get scared?

Bernie (01:01:53.876)
Yeah.

Why does everything have to be so real? Can I feel like that's always a saying that I hear people are like, it's just casual, like just cast, just cast everything so goddamn casual. What's wrong? I mean, it's OK if it's for real. But like, you know, it just I think.

purr (01:02:03.839)
Just real casual.

purr (01:02:10.834)
That casual shit can be a little annoying too, because like, okay, how long is it about to be casual though?

Bernie (01:02:16.767)
Right. Yeah. What's the end line? What's the end goal? Like, what are you looking for? Just companionship for the moment. And then you want to go back on your city girls with city boy vibe? Or are you like

purr (01:02:17.534)
you know.

purr (01:02:22.725)
Mm-hmm.

purr (01:02:28.87)
I told you, I told you these grown men will be like on the profile it'll say like um you can choose your what's it called like your dating preference like monogamy, poly, um and then something some of them says figuring out my dating goals and it'll be like 37 and it's like what is there to still fi-

Bernie (01:02:45.673)
Mm-hmm.

purr (01:02:59.286)
I'm sorry, what are we figuring out?

Bernie (01:03:02.099)
I just don't understand, I mean, I guess, it's like, don't.

purr (01:03:04.41)
You either know or you don't.

Bernie (01:03:08.661)
Like.

purr (01:03:09.322)
Short term, long term, partnership, what, figuring out, what do you mean you're still figuring out?

Bernie (01:03:11.787)
Just say that. If you're looking for short term, if you're still figuring it out, so then just say you're looking for short term. Because if you're still figuring it out, then that means that you haven't come to the conclusion that anything longer than anything short term that you're unsure of, so you shouldn't be involved in it.

purr (01:03:30.078)
Like what does that even mean?

Bernie (01:03:30.503)
like, dig it. I don't know. I mean, I guess you try and figure

purr (01:03:35.214)
and be 38 years old. Marga, what are you trying to figure out?

Bernie (01:03:41.567)
Are you looking for companionship at this stage in your life and partnership and like a relationship and someone to be with or not?

purr (01:03:50.622)
That shit is like, I just pass. Immediately, no. Cause how do you not know what you want at 38?

Bernie (01:03:56.851)
Yeah. Now that is not a petty thing to do.

Bernie (01:04:07.651)
Yeah, that's not. Okay.

purr (01:04:07.727)
don't get me started on the dating stuff. I was like I quit. I have my short little roster and I'm just gonna rock with that for a little bit and I'm just I'm not doing hinging anymore. Like it's crazy.

Bernie (01:04:22.599)
Yeah, everybody's quitting it and it's like, what is going on? But there's people quitting it. I'm like, why are people are just again, it's a mixed mess of communication. Like it's not something's just not.

purr (01:04:34.39)
I would really prefer the more authentic route so I appreciate people talking about locations and where to go.

Bernie (01:04:37.204)
Yeah.

Bernie (01:04:40.756)
Mm-hmm.

purr (01:04:44.474)
I don't think I want to do that anymore.

Bernie (01:04:46.883)
No, it sounds better because you can see somebody in the flesh and see if they're like fucking for real. Like sometimes you need to see a bitch expression and like see how they had moving and eyes are fluttering. Yeah. Are they weird? Yeah. Totally.

purr (01:04:53.546)
Mm-hmm. Are they weird? Yeah. So, I'm going to go ahead and start the video.

purr (01:05:03.215)
Yeah.

purr (01:05:06.899)
Oh yeah, alright so I think that's about what we got for this episode. So yeah, y'all know where to find us. We got all that good stuff. And anything else before we...

Bernie (01:05:11.827)
I think so.

Bernie (01:05:26.887)
I don't think so. Um, yeah, y'all know what the fuck what it says. Scream liar. And we'll see y'all back here at the same place. We'll see y'all. OK. All right. BAAA

purr (01:05:32.81)
Extreme motherfucking liar bitch. Run that shit up. BYE